i think she has every right to. At my best friend's wedding a lot of girls and aunties wore their shaadi clothing. We were annoyed because who wants to see their red wedding clothing, they should have been polite enough to wear it on teh valima and you shouldn't get your feelings hurt by what your cousin said. At least she was being honest and you should have offered it without saying it because a lot of brides are stressed and desire to be the center of attention, most fashionable, have a unique color combo and what not. these families spend so much money and time on the wedding clothing to stand out and be the center of attention. I also hope if this happens in the future you would be kind enough to step up and say oh ok i'll just wear this on the valima. Waht's the difference?
also once i saw a bride's picture and her family wore red and blue, her lengha's colors. It looked great, then the other side came by and tehy did a similar thing. her side the men wore red shirts and on the grooms they wore blue, all the women wore red and blue and it looked nice esp when some were in hijab. i don't think it's an issue to have both moms matching the bride at all.
it was not like her clothes at all. the colour of my dress was much lighter than hers. Also, hers was much heavier and her colours were divided in boxes.. first blue then pink then blue then pink. Mine was shaded blue pink from top to bottom not divided. It was very different. If u read my post, I said that its fine to wear similar shades as long as ur clothes rnt super heavy that it looks like ur trying to out-do the bride and my clothes were not super heavy, infact even the shade was similar..not exactly SAME.
People have different opinions but all I know is that if a first cousin of mine who Im seeing after 15 yrs flew all the way to attend my wedding, I wouldnt be a beetch and make a big deal over something that small..