It’s funny how the MOTHER wearing the same color is fine b/c it’s shows unity/solidarity but the MIL is just trying to “out do” the bride. I’m sorry I disagree with this. I think it will show even more solidarity and unity based on your logic, won’t it?? Like someone said, the only colors that people should steer away from is bold shades of red on the wedding day, other colors are all fair game. and if I do happen to have the same color as the bride, as a guest I would just switch the days I wear stuff.
I also don’t think it really matters what the mothers or married women wear, because that’s just it, they’re married. It’s only when unmarried girls try to dress in the same color as the bride or try to outshine the bride that it causes problems. I think it’s because it might send the message that she would have made a better bride. I mean no one cares what a 14 year old is wearing or what MIL/jhetani is wearing because, c’mon guys it’s not really competition.
Basically: If you’re a bachelorette, don’t try to make yourself look more eligible than the bride (or her bachelorette sisters) by wearing the same colors.