Why is it when a we fellows are branded loser when we are independent and but when a girl is single she is seen as independent…what if a guy just wants to be single for a bit, why does everyone judge him and think something is wrong just cos he doesnt have a gf/wife? why must he have a gf/wife to be seen as something worthy…can’t a guy be independent as well? i don’t see the logic behind this but would like to know why…
One of my mom’s best friend..called and her friend said to my mom in joking way, “How come your son isn’t married did you ask, is there something wrong with him?” I mean what the &&%$#@ lady…!
So, at the moment i guess you can say i'm in a casual relationships. We are group of 6 close friends..4 guys and two white girls we only get to see each other in a month or so usually on weekends, but that's the way i like it, i am an independent guy, i can cook, clean for myself, spend quality time with myself and my friends, so why on earth would i need a broad in my life for...i am enjoying life at the moment why do i need a broad to make things even more complicated...I just got out of committed relationship and trying to settle down. Can you guys relate?
Why is it when a we fellows are branded loser when we are independent and but when a girl is single she is seen as independent...what if a guy just wants to be single for a bit, why does everyone judge him and think something is wrong just cos he doesnt have a gf/wife? why must he have a gf/wife to be seen as something worthy...can't a guy be independent as well? i don't see the logic behind this but would like to know why...
One of my mom's best friend..called and her friend said to my mom in joking way, "How come your son isn't married did you ask, is there something wrong with him?" I mean what the &&%$#@ lady...!
"ager kisi k khenay say app ki zaat per koe ferak perta hai" to yes you should reconsider her advise.
I think theres a bit more to this. When a guy is "independent" in Pak, that usually means that he is living at home with his parents. Bringing in a wife makes life nicer for the guy's parents too. Guys who live on their own in apartments, take care of all the upkeep, laundry, cooking etc etc I think will feel less "heat" to marry although not that much less. I think adding a wife to the son's life is viewed by many parents as a gain rather than a loss.
When a girl marries, it can be seen more as a loss to the parents than a gain. So if she is "independent" for a while, its a bit more ok, she will still get pressure to marry but will come in time.
Why is it when a we fellows are branded loser when we are independent and but when a girl is single she is seen as independent...what if a guy just wants to be single for a bit, why does everyone judge him and think something is wrong just cos he doesnt have a gf/wife? why must he have a gf/wife to be seen as something worthy...can't a guy be independent as well? i don't see the logic behind this but would like to know why...
One of my mom's best friend..called and her friend said to my mom in joking way, "How come your son isn't married did you ask, is there something wrong with him?" I mean what the &&%$#@ lady...!
I have never seen any single guy being branded a loser just for being single.
Hassan bruv u are right.....it's desis mentality (specially aunties, who obviously don't have anything constructive to do) to pook their noses into other people's personal life.....
...unfortunately we can't do anything other than to just ignore such people...there are some aunties sitting down back home.....when they call my mom - usually their first question is: "Has your son & daughter got married, yet?"........I mean how sad can they get? don't they have anything else to discuss or say? Pathetic people!
i think the more important question is why should a grown man care what some old auntie says? if you don’t care about it, who cares what other people think?
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Guys who live on their own in apartments, take care of all the upkeep, laundry, cooking etc etc** I think will feel less "heat" to marry although not that much less.** I think adding a wife to the son's life is viewed by many parents as a gain rather than a loss.
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Hmm. I think it differs from person to person.
E.g. one of my uncles, independent, got married in his 30's, he had pressure to marry from my grandfather. My parents want me to get independent when I get a job and finish my univeristy and then marry whenever I want to and when I feel mature enough to hence I'll likely have no pressure. My friend is opposite, he's already being pressured big time by his father to get married as soon as. As I said maybe its different from each one..
As for aunties, thank God I have no nosy ones in my family and the people we know outside family usually keep their noses out of private matters.
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"How come your son isn't married did you ask, is there something wrong with him?" I mean what the &&%$#@ lady...!
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Your mom should reply 'its up to him, he's mature enough, its his life'. Simple four words and the aunty, if had any sense, would keep quiet. Other people will keep saying rubbish as long as you don't say something back. Shurg.
