It’s exam time for many of us so the pressure is on. Leisure time is a near forgotten word, a full night’s sleep is a thing of the past. But how seriously do you take these exams? Does doing good in them matter to you because you will be making a career out of this or just because you’re spending so much money on it, so why not study your behind off to get good grades anyway? My degree matters nothing to me, it’s not what I want to go into, but I am still studying 12 plus hours a day and driving myself crazy with stress.
And for what, a 9 to 5 job where you will be working under someone else? Where you get only a few weeks off every year? Where your every waking moment is determined by work, money. Where you’re stuck in a never ending cycle of getting a better house, a bigger house, a better, newer car, nicer clothes, better schools for the kids. I mean does it ever friggin end? And by the time you’re finally out of the cycle when you retire, you’re too old to live your life the way you want it. Your life is never really your life, your time never really your own. You might fool yourself into thinking that you are master of your life, that you decide what to do and when to do it but you aren’t. Can you skip 10 days from work and take off to Hawaii whenever you want to? Can you go through season after season wearing old fashioned clothes.
Really, we’re all slaves. And I am too. Studying my life away for something I never wanna do. Something that is leaching my youth, my health, my free time.
This is our ideal:
A late model car
A big house with a three car garage
Vacations to exotic locales
All the latest gadgets
All the latest clothes
Botox, brazilian waxes, makeup, brand names
This is our ideal life course:
0-18 high school
18-22 undergrad
22-** masters, phd
25- marriage
27 - kids
60 - retire
What a fuccking boring life. What a fuccking waste of youth, of only one life you will ever have.
Fucck I am dropping out of school. I am seriously thinking of it. I am not cut out for a life of slavery.
I study hard because my parents are spending a lot of money to put me through college, and it's not easy. Though my school is relatively less expensive, it's even cheaper than my high school fees (I went to a catholic school), we've been goin gthrough hard times financially so i can't take it for granted anymore. My mother is absolutely alone here, while I'm in college for hours, she spends most of the time reading namaz or reading Quran or cooking and cleaning, though not as much of the last two anymore. But I have to finish school and no way my parents let me dorm. Plus, she never went to college and I want to do sometin to make her prou dof me. So, I study more for my parents, rather htan for myself. I don't want to drop out, but I've no clue what I really want out of life. It's sad, really....
:) Yes we are not happy with our lives, not satisfied at all. Maybe because we don't know what exactly our ambition is? We don't know what do we have to do in this life? Maybe because we are too far away from our religion? I don't know myself. So many questions, yet no answer.
so Sarah you'd prefer it if you did absolutely nothing for years....apart from having "fun"?.....that will make you bored of "fun" too.
doing work makes us appreciate the fun times. ps. as Muslims we believe that we should work hard....earn a halal living. live life in the way Allah wants us too....and then one day we will get out of this cycle....thats when this life will end and the new one will begin :) a life which is exactly the type of like u want but u know u cant have in this lifetime.
Umm yeah whatever, the only way to succeed in life is to go to university. The only way to earn money is to go to university. The only way you have respect for hard work is to go to university. The only way to be intelligent is to go to university.
And Impulse, fun is boring. For your information, I am not dumb, nor ambitionless, but it's dumb to think university is the be all and end all. I think making your way through the world without a university degree actually requires more hard work and determination because you have to fight for everything, you are given nothing on a golden platter. And for some careers, university doesn't help you get to them. You need hard bitter experience. I hope you do know there are careers aside from medicine, law, engineering, etc right?
Well think of it like this. You have the choice to pick the classes you want to in University - of all the majors there, dont tell me you dont like a single one?
Furthermore, you can just get a bachelors, graduate, and do something on your own in life. You're smart, I'm sure you dont need a professional or specialized degree if you dont want it.
Your kids will have a mom that is open-minded, well-read, and well-acquainted with the world. If you didn't go to college...well...many people who dont - their scope on life is more narrow I've noticed. Exceptions exist, of course.
Just put up with it - its one more semester, right? Then you'll be done.
No PCG, I wasted a year and a half literally getting an F in everything because I couldn't be arsed to go to any of my classes or exams, didn't even have the sense to withdraw from the classes. So I get done in December earliest.
As for open-minded, yeah university is good for that, however, my major isn't and it's too late to change that. What angers me is that all money is going wasted cuz it's going into something that has nothing to do with the career path I want to go into. And the career I want to go into requires me to travel, read a lot. None of which I have the time for.
Psychology you can do things with. There are internship programs in it if you can't decide. Also you dont have to deal with such heavy disorders - you can do lots of stuff with psychology.
Philosophy is not something you can go somewhere with. It was my second major. I did it for fun. Unless you want to go to grad school for it temporarily - you can maybe make it as a professor if you do a phd in it. Or emphasize in biomedical ethics - which is where the real job opportunities are.
No, I kept my major the way it was. Now, I just dont knwo what to do with my life - plans fell thru the hole. I think I'm going to bum around - parents will probably marry me off. Whatever.
PCG, you are smart. And I don't see you scrubbing pots and pans and wiping snot from your kids' nose anyway. What a blight upon feminism that would be :p
Philosophy is great. Job was never an important thing for me. Being challenged was. Philosophy rocked my world. But I have always been attracted to the deviant, hence the switch to psychology. I think no matter what happens, I'm gonna sit in on those philosophy classes I used to love, just for the heck of it, not for the grades.
thats why desi folks hate thier jobs, cus they go wehre all the money is.. than they bitch about it for the rest of thier lives. i hope i dont turn out like that
