Ignore. U don't need to justify your religious/personal decisions to ur MIL. If ur husband is fine with it...end of story.
And also - once u make a decision, don't talk abt it with ppl like ur MIL who will make comments. U wear abaya and hijab? Cool. Keep it to urself. If they ask, just say it makes u comfortable. If they continue asking just give the simplest explanation and ignore their further comments. Same with the rest...provide the simplest, straight-forward answer and ignore further comments.
Whats the harm in explaining to her MIL why she is doing what she is doing. You wouldn't just ignore you own mother.
i muSt say ,, sirf apni Maa hi Maa hoti hy bus . Saas is always Saas , beleive or not , Mother can never spoil her daughters home , buT mother in law has options , like 2nd marriage if there is any fErtility pRoblem or any other isSue , buT our own mother cAn never think about any such options or choices , i dont know if im talking right or its just a thought of mine ..
I have noticed many times Mother in law try to poke her nose if hubby and wife both are happy , she would complain her son at once if Daughter in law has madE any mistake but she would remain silent where she is her own daughter .. Its natUral .. But again 5 fingers are not equal 5% hi bahu ko apni beti jese rakhti hain . Ye maine puranay waqton ki baatoN main suna hy k bAhu beti jesi hoti hy , aj kal tU NA bAhu khush na saAs majority ..
SoluTion ek hi hy separate rehna . Door reh kar sub izat kr lete hain thori boht bAchat hojati hy ..
i muSt say ,, sirf apni Maa hi Maa hoti hy bus . Saas is always Saas , beleive or not , M**other can never spoil her daughters home , buT mother in law has options **, like 2nd marriage if there is any fErtility pRoblem or any other isSue , buT our own mother cAn never think about any such options or choices , i dont know if im talking right or its just a thought of mine ..
I have noticed many times Mother in law try to poke her nose if hubby and wife both are happy , she would complain her son at once if Daughter in law has madE any mistake but she would remain silent where she is her own daughter .. Its natUral .. But again 5 fingers are not equal 5% hi bahu ko apni beti jese rakhti hain . Ye maine puranay waqton ki baatoN main suna hy k bAhu beti jesi hoti hy , aj kal tU NA bAhu khush na saAs majority ..
SoluTion ek hi hy separate rehna . Door reh kar sub izat kr lete hain thori boht bAchat hojati hy ..
Oh please!! Every saas is someone's mother. Whether it be beta ki maa ya beti ki. Given a mother's mamta, by that logic, beta ki maa bhi apnay beta ka ghar nahin kharaab karegi.
I know of girls' mother who has been fitna in her daughter's life and was so interfering her daughter got divorced. So it's not maa ya saas ya baap ya susar - it's about who the individual is.
And moreover, what about the couple - don't they have the sense God gave them to 1) learn tolerance, patience and grace and 2) know how to balance relationships and be fair to everyone involved?
However, since you are living in a joint family, so try to wake up at a reasonable time. Instead of asking MIL for recipes, look them up on internet, there are plenty of tutorials.
how one can spend life in restrictions? Home means you re free to do anything in limits , you should do your duties on time and you can sleep or wake up any time you want . If our heart is not satisfied we cant comromise at any cost .. If both mother in law and daughter in law are happy from each other then there will be no issue everything will be fine ,
a daughter in law can make mistakes because she was not at her home by birth, Mother in law should guide her instead of complaining her husband and insulting or taunting ..
umMm , kon se comments?
Like:
1) engagement k baad tu ghoomti phirti thi larky(fiance) k sath , ab parday ki batain karti ho??
2)her waqt sochti rehti ho hum log tmhe aisi kon si aziat dy rhe hain fazool k natak
3)hum tu parda nhi karty , tm b ghoomti thi pehle ab abaya pehan lia tu hijab or behayaee ka bta rhi ho .
3)pehle kabhi khana banana nhi sikhaya kisi ne?
4)itna jaldi q soti ho ya itna late q othti ho?nahusat phela di hy.
Etc etc :D
All the comments are pretty harmless, IMO. But I understand if you find them annoying tho.
What strikes me a bit is the first comment; I remember you called non-hijabi behayaa and Ismailis' vulgar, now if you yourself are dissing out such comments about other people and their religion/how they practice, shouldn't you expect something in return? And from the comment of MIL it does sound a bit like there is something about it. Think about it? Jo khud pe nahi saha jaata wo kissi aur se bhi nahi kehna chaiye, right? kya pata, jisse aap behaya samajh rehi hain wo Allah swt ke kitne kareeb hai.
Oh please!! Every saas is someone's mother. Whether it be beta ki maa ya beti ki. Given a mother's mamta, by that logic, beta ki maa bhi apnay beta ka ghar nahin kharaab karegi.
I know of girls' mother who has been fitna in her daughter's life and was so interfering her daughter got divorced. So it's not maa ya saas ya baap ya susar - it's about who the individual is.
And moreover, what about the couple - don't they have the sense God gave them to 1) learn tolerance, patience and grace and 2) know how to balance relationships and be fair to everyone involved?
OMG thank you so much for posting this. i was starting to think i was the only one who believed.
All the comments are pretty harmless, IMO. But I understand if you find them annoying tho.
What strikes me a bit is the first comment; I remember you called non-hijabi behayaa and Ismailis' vulgar, now if you yourself are dissing out such comments about other people and their religion/how they practice, shouldn't you expect something in return? And from the comment of MIL it does sound a bit like there is something about it. Think about it? Jo khud pe nahi saha jaata wo kissi aur se bhi nahi kehna chaiye, right? kya pata, jisse aap behaya samajh rehi hain wo Allah swt ke kitne kareeb hai.
1st of all , i didnt talk about any sect.
2ndly , you should not pass any comment on me ..
I had clearly said its not related to me .. Dont talk about other threads in this thread , you re confusing me alot . Kindly dont share your own thoughts here ..
If you are creating any issue it would be your personal wish, personal attacks are prohibited. So , talk about the topic or simply dont discuss me ..
Who has given you this right to pass such comments on me without reading the topic??
Use common sense if you have one ..
jo parda nhi kar skta wo behaya nhi tU kya kehlae ga? Boht fakher se comment pass kia hy.
Behter hy topic per baat karain na k sects ko bech main laen ..
Kabhi apko zero samaj nhi atay kabhi dosray thread le ati hain . Barae meherbani aap mere topics per koi reply mat karain . Muje aap k comments boht buray or useless lagtay hain jin ka taluq topic se hota hi nhi hy . Aap meri saas nhi hain jo zaberdasti muje ismaili wagera keh rhi hain .. Be in your limits .
Miss or mister arzi whoever you are.
farq kese nhi parta madam?
Ab aap sikhaen gi k parda karna hy ya nhi?
Apni batain dekhain or apne upper gour karain jo mu main arha hy type karti ja rhi hain ..
Yes i know whats your style .
Kindly meri jan chhoro werna mirchi lag jae gi aap ko .. Mirchi tu aap ko lagi hui hy jo dosray topics discuss karne agai hain ..
Arzi, there's no point in engaging in this thread. Unless you tell the poster she is right and her MIL is an evil woman, your comments are not welcome.
You guys should really be careful handing out advice here. It really does have a an impact on the way women who post here think. Let's not think every woman who posts here is like Nadz. Even if you don't agree, don't insult the OP. You don't know what her life is like so please refrain from laughing at the OP or making fun of her. For you, these are mere comments but for her this is her life. She is trying to remain discreet or whatever so let it be.
Arzi, those are not harmless comments. What's missing here is the tone they are said in. They are not comments, they are insults.
You guys should really be careful handing out advice here. It really does have a an impact on the way women who post here think. Let's not think every woman who posts here is like Nadz. Even if you don't agree, don't insult the OP. You don't know what her life is like so please refrain from laughing at the OP or making fun of her. For you, these are mere comments but for her this is her life. She is trying to remain discreet or whatever so let it be.
Arzi, those are not harmless comments. What's missing here is the tone they are said in. They are not comments, they are insults.
Like I said in my opinion they seem harmless but understandable if she is annoyed by them. I didn't undermine the fact that they could be hurtful. And I gave her a valid reason for the first comment. No one is comparing her to Nadz, the fact that OP can't handle a different opinion than her's puts her in a class for herself and she's the one lashing out.
Wendy, I'm sorry I think I'll take Sehrysh's advice on this. Ab OP dimagh tak chali gaye hai to uske dimagh ka kaun mukabla karega GS par .. sadly I can't find a competer.
Arzi is in no way attacking you, balkey you are the one attacking her with comments like “use common sense if you have one” 
