Ways to Deal With a DifficulT MIL ..!

[rabia3983]

Re: Ways to Deal With a DifficulT MIL ..!

@redvelvet

Let’s give her the benefit of the doubt that she asked about her cousin and in the process shared her own experience as well. She’s disillusioned. Even if a MIL cannot see her DIL as her own daughter, she should treat her with respect and the same goes for the DIL’s treatment of the MIL. It’s natural to become disillusioned about relationships when you’ve had several negative experiences be it with in-laws, friends, bosses, etc etc. There is nothing in the OP’s posts that indicates that she disrespects her in-laws or that her mother did not adequately prepare her for marriage. Let’s refrain from making assumptions about the OP’s parents. I know that if anyone…be it a close friend of mine, a relative, my in-laws, my spouse made comments about my parents in terms of my upbringing or even preparedness for marriage, I’d be offended. One’s level of iman and parental contributions are personal things that we cannot easily determine, so it’s best that both regular members and mods avoid dragging family into it.

Again, you need to read everything before you start commenting. OP is talking about her OWN MIL and her OWN family situation and stated that her housework was too much and that she didn’t do that much work while at her mother’s house. SO from that i concluded that she was not prepared for her married life. Isn’t that a parent’s responsibility to prepare their daughter for married life, house work? I also didn’t disrecptect her mother, just said she didn’t prepare her.

It hard not to drag family into threads when the thread itself is about family.