Ways to Deal With a DifficulT MIL ..!

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Re: Ways to Deal With a DifficulT MIL ..!

@Sehrysh

RV, the problem is that some people with or without reason, consider their own mother to be like Christ - the saviour and Messiah and they automatically juxtapose the MIL to be the anti-Christ and she-Devil.

A MIL is not, merely because she is the MIL, a DIL’s enemy. A MIL may not give her life blood, sweat and tears for her DIL like a mother will - but all MILs should not be presumed to be likely to push their DIL in front on an oncoming train.

Sehrysh,

Just because a MIL can not feel the same depth of love for you that your own mother has for you…doesn’t mean she’s your enemy or a minion of the antichrist. Yes, I know that, Sehrysh. I never said that MILS are evil. Before a girl gets married and gets herself a MIL, she has met with many auntis throughout her life that are very warm and friendly women…and heck may even be nicer than the aunts in her own family.

I only looked at the OP’s post that Rabia responded to. In that post OP simply stated a tendency of human nature k saas ko hum bayshak ammi keh kar bulaayain, she (by nature) cannot have the same feelings a mother has for us. ****This tendency in human nature STILL does not entitle the DIL to become careless in her respect/attitude toward her MIL…nor does it entitle the MIL to become careless or transgress with her DIL.

In that post…and I am only talking about that post…all Sanaya stated was a general tendency of human nature…what gunnah has she done? What is so wrong with that particular post of hers that it warrants us questioning how good/strong of a Muslim she is or how much she follows Islam…or how much of Islam she has learned or followed? After all, Reha said the same thing…that you can naturally get away with a hell lot more with your own parents than your in-laws…but tab kisi ko takleef naHi hui. And if OP points out the same reality, we have to question her iman? What is sooooooooo wrong or objectionable in my initial post, Sehrysh, that you had to tell me the above? Did you honestly think that I believe all MILs to be evil? Or was it in defense of Rabia…I dunno. I have nothing against Rabia, but I found her response to be unnecessary and I don’t believe it has a justification. So are you trying to justify it or what?