ok guyzz here is the situation…
waht would u do if you recently got engaged and u find out that, thats not the person u wanna spend you entire life with.. but he and his family, and your family is all excited about the marriage n all???
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even if you choose to dump him and get married to someone else later on, your parents will still be happy about it eventually once the bitterness rubs off. so don't worry about that. second, it's your entire life man, you have to make sure you're making the right decision and that YOU will be happy- everyone else is secondary.
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Just sit with your mom or dad and talk to them about your apprehensions. These things happen. Parents are more open minded than you think.
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Well why don't you feel you want to spend your life with him?
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coz i feel nothing for him... :(...n i know he likes me alot..
m i being selfish??
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Y did u agree to it?
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cozz my parents were being emotionall... n thats wat everyone wanted to hear... but i didn'tknow ke sabb itnayy jazzbatee ho jayenn gayee... :(
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yeah, shouldn't you have figured this out before agreeing to an engagement? you can't just play with someone else's life this way- getting married is not a game and its certainly not a big joke or the kind of commitment you can dance around. if you had doubts, you should have spoken up sooner.
^ after reading your response.... come on, lady, this is desi culture... of course everyone is emotional and why shouldn't they be? someone in their family, someone they care about so much, is getting married! its a BIG deal and something to be celebrated. your reasoning is ridiculous... you agreed to please them then so you said yes, and now you regret it, so where is that concern for their feelings now? or did you think an engagement is just a pretty dress, a party, and a ring, and would mean nothing more beyond that? didn't you realise you were agreeing to spend the rest of your life with this guy?? so yes, i'd have to say you are being selfish. and you need to grow up and give this a fair chance.
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thankss groovychick!!!!!
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=// tough
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sonia i gather by reading your post that this is going to be an arranged marriage? If so....then of course you are not going to feel anything for him right now. You can't expect to love someone the second you meet...right?
So before you do anything drastic give it some time. Get to know him. Now that you are engaged....take advantage of it and think of it as an opportunity to get to know him better. If later down the road (before you get married) you still feel apprehensive about marrying him then discuss your feelings with your parents and/or your fiance.
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sonia, i agree with everyone above but what concerns me is that you may realize you're being selfish, may go on a guilt trip and then marry him but what if in the future, you refuse to feel anything for this guy? what if at some point, you regret your decision or feel that he really isn't the guy you should have married? we have already seen a few girls here with similar issues- they are married but not happy. this is something you have to think about very carefully and make a decision that you think would be best. maybe you should get to know him? if that in any way, will make him seem more compatible/better to you? and i think that even if you're having doubts, you should sit and share them with him and see what he thinks (that is if you two are close)
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Wow looks like forced marriages are happening everywhere these days from the sudden influx of forced marriage threads. For your sake and everyone elses, just end it now. No explanations, just do it.
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i agree with somegroovychick 
besides sonia, honestly marry to a person who likes you, not the other way around. at least he gonna give you respect till the rest of your life.
whereas if you go with someone whom you like, you never gonna know whether he likes you or not 
ps. meray do crore anay 
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ok guyzz here is the situation... waht would u do if you recently got engaged and u find out that, thats not the person u wanna spend you entire life with.. but he and his family, and your family is all excited about the marriage n all????
thats when you sit with you're parents and talk...:)...trsut me IT WORKS
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sonia, after readin this thread jus hav a few questions in my mind.. that the guy ur engaged to,is he not good lookin? or may b after talkin to him u realised this not the man, i always wanted to marry (dream boy/man) but then nobody is perfect.may b u shud giv some time to it,may b u were not really ready or prepare to get engaged n get into some relationship. for how long have u been engaged now??? n accordin to me in our culture/religion we are not too close to our fiance's, so obviously itni gupshup bhi nahi hoti... i guess u shud simply give some time. r u engaged to ur czn, in family or out of family??? sorry but i too agree that ur being selfish... as u said he really likes u, ur lucky MashAllah. :)
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I’ve heard this saying before…and I agree with it. Of course it would be even better if he likes you AND you like him too. 