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whereas if you go with someone whom you like, you never gonna know whether he likes you or not
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Um... if hes with her doesn't that mean he also likes her?
Ill be honest, it feels good to be pursued than to be the pursuer....
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I will go on with it thinking maybe thats wot Allah has for me
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Yes but it takes two to make a relationship work and if she doesn't like him I don't see this working out in the long run
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Um... *if hes with her doesn't that mean he also likes her? * Ill be honest, it feels good to be pursued than to be the pursuer....
yea but you know how it is...especially among desi in-laws "merey beto ko paasa diya" etc etc....if the guy and his family pursue the girl .....then they will never be able to say that.
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Unless they raised a total idiot who was under drugs or something...they shudnt give her tanay for tht..
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oh my god , is it just me or are half of the threads in this forum just idiotic.
“oh i now realise i dun wnt to marry him”
what striking life changing incident happened now that made you realise something u dint realise before !!! 
you girls dont have the guts to stand up to ur parents before the engagement and then u tlk abt breaking it off.
please i see this thread as dead and pointless as Desigirl’s thread
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I agree....were you drugged up when you said yes to him? Was there a shotgun to your head when you said yes? Imean come on. What actually made you go ahead & say yes. And what is so horrible about him that you want to break it off.
I will tell you there are very few perfect ideal men out there for us, so do you have anyone else in mind if you break this off. What exactly is the reason for you to want to break it off?
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Look everyone, it's not always easy for a girl to be forthcoming and say NO i do not wanna marry him! Even though, that is how it SHOULD be. Unfortunately, it's not very common for alot of desi girls to stand up to their parents. You don't know what kind of emotional blackmail or stress might have caused her to say yes. It's another thing if she whole heartedly said yes and is now changing her mind for whatever reason. If someone finds out that the other person isn't all shareef or whatever then that's also a reason for them to break it off. All the details are really unclear as of now because she hasn't provided any details about the guy or about the circumstances.
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Is it that you don't like him, or that you actively dislike him?
If you just don't like him, you can most likely learn to like him in time - most arranged marriages are like that, and most arranged marriages are successful.
Only if you actively dislike would I even say that there is a problem...
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Look everyone, it's not always easy for a girl to be forthcoming and say NO i do not wanna marry him! Even though, that is how it SHOULD be. Unfortunately, it's not very common for alot of desi girls to stand up to their parents. You don't know what kind of emotional blackmail or stress might have caused her to say yes. It's another thing if she whole heartedly said yes and is now changing her mind for whatever reason. If someone finds out that the other person isn't all shareef or whatever then that's also a reason for them to break it off. All the details are really unclear as of now because she hasn't provided any details about the guy or about the circumstances.
then why are they so forthcoming to break off engagements or get a divorce? and for what? because they dont like him....they arent attracted to him. WELL they should have thought about that BEFORE saying yes.
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like i said before, none of us KNOW what circumstances she got engaged under. maybe it was a forced engagement or something and not EVERYONE has the guts to speak up, especially desi girls who want to honor their parents above everything else. even then so, i think she has a right to break it off if now she strongly feels that her marriage with him will not work out. theres no rule against her standing up for her rights now if she has realized her mistake! yes it may be unfair to alot of other ppl but then why should she ruin her own life just to make someone else happy?? and if she refuses to feel anything for this guy, is he going to be happy being with someone who doesnt even like him?? however, it's another story if she wants to break it off for some petty and silly reason. now we don't know the REAL reason, do we.
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Maybe it's me but it seems most of yall were nicer when the girls who were already married wanted out than this one... I mean it's better to realize NOW taht you don't like the dude than to be here a few months/years later after hte marriage is done that "i don't like him!".
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^you were missing in action since morning =P
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^you were missing in action since morning =P
lol what happened??
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lol I haven’t seen any posts from you since morning like I normally do and I was like 
Did she really start studying or what?
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LOL gee thanks
no i was asleep....
i study late at night, its eaiser for me...
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i have no sympathy for ne of these girls , whether its i dont like him now were married or i dont like him now were engaged.
jeez poor guys dt hve to put up wid dem
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break it up .