Re: WAS: married for 8 months … NOW: 7 months pregnant and divorced.
I hear what your saying. I’ll give you the example of two British Pakistani lifelong friends of mine. The first guy, he finds out that his wife is pregnant with their second child. Turns out it’s not his, but some phathan dudes. They get divorced - she does nikkah with the phathan dude at 5 months pregnant whilst her and my friend’s first son is used as a pawn during divorce, poor kid. My second friend, got a girl pregnant at 16, a gori, she converted, they married. 13 years later, she has given him 3 beautiful kids, she is fully practicing, he is a ****** who drinks, does drugs, has cheated on her about 12 times (in my presence/that I know of). Some people are just ****ed in the head, why marry if you are going to behave like that?
Re: WAS: married for 8 months … NOW: 7 months pregnant and divorced.
Yea that happens a lot, people mess around like that a lot. Most of my friends have done this when they were nikkahed and also after they got married. Cheating, gambling, drinking. Their ideology is enjoy this world as much as you can before you’re deported back to Jehlum or which ever pindh they hail from.
Re: WAS: married for 8 months … NOW: 7 months pregnant and divorced.
I’m sad to hear this but also happy for you because you haven’t been forced to live with him. I strongly suggest any other reading this thread. If you find out someone you’re about to get married to had girlfriends or were sleeping around in the past. You should definitely back off. If is extremely hard for guys to stop having sex with other women after marriage if they are so used to it.
It’s an addiction just like smoking or drinking, you can’t quit over night.
Re: WAS: married for 8 months … NOW: 7 months pregnant and divorced.
I am extremely saddened by your situation. May Allah swt make it easy for you and bring you peace and sabr in your life. Ameen.
As hard as it is, you need to remain strong for your child. It seems that you have done everything you can and you can’t be blamed for a nasty piece of character. If there was anything Islamic about him, he would have thought twice before hurting you. But Allah is knowing of all things, and your ex-husband’s time will also come.
Have faith and sabr, there’s a light at the end of every tunnel, hang in there. Surround yourself with those that matter the most, your parents, siblings, friends, etc. And don’t let this affect your daughter, she is a blessing mA.
Try and look at the bigger picture, do you really want to be stuck with a beygarat all your life? You have your whole life to look forward to. Screw what others say and think.
I really hope everything works out for you. Keep us informed. x
Re: WAS: married for 8 months … NOW: 7 months pregnant and divorced.
It’s hard, but I think 50% of it is caused by hormones … I hear a song, or see something that reminds me of him and I cry, the person I feel in love with doesn’t exist, I feel like the person I loved has died … but I try spending my time getting ready for my baby, praying, reading Quran and being around family and friends… I just hope they stay out of my life, I really don’t need more drama
