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*Originally posted by ~Tikhi Jalebi~: *
my parents love each other too n they act like they met each other like few months ago (enjoy each others company, look forward to seeing each other) and fight like lil kids...n i know my dad hasnt had an affair cuz i keep an eye on him lol
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okay maybe #5 - need of person present.
u gotta keep in mind, that there are cases where its SURPRIZING and shocking.. to see above-mentioned case, AND yet one or (both) partners were cheating on each other, on either physical or mental basis, and were happy this way, as the 'another temp partner' case was helping them to re-energize the older relationship..
well, the individuals could just work their arses off so when they come home, they're too tired to even think of where their relationship is going. Kaam. Its what life is made of.
Well there is a root cause: marriage. In our society, MOST marriages don't take into consideration the couple, instead the family compatibility is more important. Many times the guy/girl are too immature to even make such a decision. Bottom line, you end up with people who are totally incompatible, no feelings for each other yet they stick together cuz that's what expected of them. Most of the time the poor kids act as a glue between the parents. Yes, sadly, I have seen several cases.
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*Originally posted by PyariCgudia: *
well, the individuals could just work their arses off so when they come home, they're too tired to even think of where their relationship is going. Kaam. Its what life is made of.
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sure :-) think about it..(in desi) do u think u worry about 'relationship going' factor after a kid or two or trying to go through work/life/relatives .. not really.. u're called SELFISH if u do..
'sharam say marr ja' type comments OR the fear of those comments.. neah man, i dont think ANYONE will bring it up.. but in the mind, it will be there constantly.. :-)
Those who stick to one partner have more than likely given up on sex. They are together for some other reason. It can be money, children, laziness, lack of self confidence, what the society might say, do I want to go through another hell, do I really need another mother-in-law to deal with, etc.
Enjoy the first few times and then just find another hobby. You will remain loyal.
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*Originally posted by skhan: *
Well there is a root cause: marriage. In our society, MOST marriages don't take into consideration the couple, instead the family compatibility is more important. Many times the guy/girl are too immature to even make such a decision. Bottom line, you end up with people who are totally incompatible, no feelings for each other yet they stick together cuz that's what expected of them. Most of the time the poor kids act as a glue between the parents. Yes, sadly, I have seen several cases.
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Then look at Western societies.There are more 'affairs' then desis.And believe me they dont stick together because its 'expected' of them.And rarely are the marriages ever arranged.
I think the fact is, there is a lack of communication in failed marriages.They dont bring out issues in the open and find solutions for them.Inseatd the marriage deteriorates because of the problems and they both or one of them goes out to find somebody who can 'understand' them.
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Those who stick to one partner have more than likely given up on sex. They are together for some other reason.
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Hain ji?
Then look at Western societies.There are more 'affairs' then desis.And believe me they dont stick together because its 'expected' of them.And rarely are the marriages ever arranged.
I think the fact is, there is a lack of communication in failed marriages.They dont bring out issues in the open and find solutions for them.Inseatd the marriage deteriorates because of the problems and they both or one of them goes out to find somebody who can 'understand' them.
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The West is totally another issue. Over there some people find the concept of a single partner quite difficult after having a free for all uptil marriage. I agree about the lack of communication but then again, why the sudden communication gap?
In terms of the desi society, in some cases, FG is right.
The West is totally another issue. Over there some people find the concept of a single partner quite difficult after having a free for all uptil marriage. I agree about the lack of communication but then again, why the sudden communication gap?
In terms of the desi society, in some cases, FG is right.
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Fg is going into another issue.Thats kind of the final product of the real reasons for the failed marriage.People dont just go off and have affairs for no reason.That issue is caused by a lack of communication.Well that depends on the people involved.Some of them stop discussing their problems, there can be so many reasons for that.
Those who stick to one partner have more than likely given up on sex. They are together for some other reason.
I dont believe that for a second. You've given up on sex if you're the type of person who doesn't have any respect for the value of relationships, and if you're the type of person who doesn't see beyond bedroom intimacy. There's much more to a relationship than sex.
Relationships that are founded on sex, however, may be subject to your theory here.
Well, one bad experience doesn't make it 'more than likely', just as one good experience, doesn't make it 'less likely'. Unless we have some scientific facts/statistics to back our claim, its just inconclusive.
Question is why married couples commit infidelity. The answer is mostly dimaghi fatoor and/or marital incompatibility in the first place. Are people more likely or less likely to indulge in it... it depends. People who come from stable backgrounds (parents remained married), have college degrees, have good financial prospects and have kids are less likely to indulge in moo maaring. Any discussion of divorce rates or marital infidelity should be taken with a healthy serving of salt.
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You've given up on sex if you're the type of person who doesn't have any respect for the value of relationships, and if you're the type of person who doesn't see beyond bedroom intimacy. There's much more to a relationship than sex.
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We are not discussing what constitutes a healthy relationship. The topic at hand is about infidelity and 99% of the times it happens to fulfill lack of intimacy.
I know there is more to marriage than just sex. And that is exactly why many marriages prevail. if it was only for sex then we would have a 100% divorce rate regardless of the society.
Question is why married couples commit infidelity. The answer is mostly dimaghi fatoor and/or marital incompatibility in the first place.
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Exactly my point. Issues like communication gaps etc. don't just pop up for no reason. There is always an underlying root cause. The fact the problem surfaces later rather than sooner in some cases is another issue.
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Fg so you run to another thing with legs?
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why are you so pissed off all the time?. do you have any respect for me?. I might talk crap but it doesn't give you the license to judge me at every nook n corner. do i ever talk like that to a girl when it comes to how she would approach men?
lol.Sorry FG.Im not angry sheesh.I mean the guy who is going to go get involved with another woman, is doing it just because its lust? I dont think thats possible.He would have to be a low life to do that.Not you I meant him .