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yes, exactly! - for a husband just staring and appreciating, and not telling what he is thinking in his mind. hes either appreciating her legs, eyes, body etc. right? hypocrisy in action.
Do not make this woman only issue khan sahab. I personally know guys who act religious front of their wives but outside they are themselves. I am just saying because i do not want my man to be hypocrite in anyway. Besides there is more to life than looking at opposite sex.
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these things should have been checked b4 marriage that are they this type .. n if u find out after well what can u do .. ? ..
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Appreciation of beauty is not something to be ashamed off. However acting on temptation when in a committed relationship is.
This..
This was what pakiQueen was getting at as well SK, R.A.W etc.
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its like saying a guys can do whatever in his mind but not in real physically ... lol ...
lol, if he do nothing, just thinking, i can understand
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Beware of your thinking, because they become your words, and then your actions, and then your habbits and finally your character.
Most of the sinners when interviewed, agreed that the "plan" (idea) was not a sudden thunder bolt from the sky, but their temptations developed after watching it and thinking about it for a long time, and finally couldn't resist tasting/feeling the pleasure of it, practically.
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It happens in daily life. Wives think that their husbands don't oggle, but have a very pure way of looking at other women (just like they would look at their own sisters). But one day when she is working in kitchen, and is paying attention to the words of her husband talking to his friend in a casual way, he unintentionally translates his thoughts into words about the beautiful "assets" of other women so excitedly (without realizing that his wife is listening). It is then when his wife realizes the purity of those "Just looking and appreciating the beauty of art"
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^People can't always help what pops into their heads hence 'thinking' itself is not haram, only acting out on those thoughts..
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^ Yep. It is just like a traffic of good and bad thoughts going through your mind. Usually only those thoughts become one's words (intentionally or unintentionally) which he mostly doesn't ignore and like to continue thinking about for long time.
Why do people not talk about khatara (dented) cars passing on the roads but continue talking about the latest models of the most expensive cars, because they choose to totally ignore the daddu garis (fox wagons) and think more about getting the BMW's, so they couldn't resist talking about them. (even unintentionally)
Why doesn't this comes out from their mouth unintentionally, "Oh..that sister in my office, she is very kind" Because this concept was not in the thought process most of the time. Rather the words that come out of the mouth represent a negative thought process...Do I even need to mention those words ?!
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Appreciation of beauty is not something to be ashamed off. However acting on temptation when in a committed relationship is.
As everybody's mother always said: "Look but don't touch".
Bingo!. I stand by this.
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Beware of your thinking, because they become your words, and then your actions, and then your habbits and finally your character.
Most of the sinners when interviewed, agreed that the "plan" (idea) was not a sudden thunder bolt from the sky, but their temptations developed after watching it and thinking about it for a long time, and finally couldn't resist tasting/feeling the pleasure of it, practically.
Then they are men or women of weak character and as it says in the Quran Allah shall guide people to the right path if they are worthy. I am of course paraphrasing but I believe that is somewhere in Surah Al Bakra.
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Then they are men or women of weak character and as it says in the Quran Allah shall guide people to the right path if they are worthy. I am of course paraphrasing but I believe that is somewhere in Surah Al Bakra.
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I was right. Surah Al Bakra, Ayat 6 to 22.
Those who deny the faith and the instruments are going to be lead astray anyway. But there is a huge difference between accepting the creations of Allah and acting on sinful temptations.
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the use of the word worthy i have issue with
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tharki person are good in wandering gazes.
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