Is it ok with you if your spouse looks at and appreciates members of the opposite gender?
At the philosophical level as well as on a personal level.
This can apply to actors, people in real life, anyone.
Question for males AND females here.
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Edited: if your dad/mom stared at and appreciated other women/men, would you be ok with it? **
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nothing to feel insecure about........its girl's insecurity that makes them go nuts....
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so philosophical level means in principle?
and personal level means what do i think?
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:P U please figure out what philosophical means.
On a personal level I mean that is it alright in your opinion and "not a big deal - heck I'd do it with him/her" as some people do on GS
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No big deal.
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its like saying a guys can do whatever in his mind but not in real physically ... lol ...
No big deal.
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its like saying a guys can do whatever in his mind but not in real physically ... lol ...
I got no issue with that.
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shouldnt be a big deal IMO.
at the end of the day it's all about level of trust
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hm i guess not
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Erm.. should not be a big deal, unless he starts to compare you with other women.
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i feel blessed if my spouses do this. atleast they have eyes.
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It is wrong
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Urm..........I might be the only female saying this but...............no, it would not be ok with me.
Runs away
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haha. nor with me
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hey demesne your blessing argument might collapse if all wives are ok with their husbands staring and appreciating other women
stare ..> appreciate ..> talk ...> flirt ...>affair ..> divorce ...>
this is my fear
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Dude, it noone wants to count their blessings, fine by me.
:) I'm counting mine.
hey demesne your blessing argument might collapse if all wives are ok with their husbands staring and appreciating other women
stare ..> appreciate ..> talk ...> flirt ...>affair ..> divorce ...>
this is my fear
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It would annoy me but I would find it strange if he didn't look at other people and find them attractive. In his opinion he thinks I'm the most beautiful person on earth even if that may not be true in his eyes I am. In the same regard I can find other guys attractive and I would compliment them but I make it clear that its not because I fancy them or I'm trying to flirt with them its because I think they have beautiful features..
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I am not ok with wandering eyes and I do it sometime but I suddenly stop just because my inner feeling reject such ideas of awara nighain.
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I wouldn't go nuts on him...but secretly I would always want his eyes on me and only me.
What girl wouldn't?
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Few months back I was in Lahore, where I came to know this incident from a pious man. A medical college student died in an accident. After prayers, when they were taking his Janaza, a group of female students of the college also wanted to go along. When they were told that women are not allowed to offer Janaza, they said that they have not come to offer Janaza, but to see and meet the mother who groomed such a gentleman, who always protected his gaze whenever a female passed by him and never ever looked at any woman with an immoral gaze.
Mothers who recite Darood sharif and remain ba-wudhu while cooking meals for their children, and teach them good lessons from the lives of the Prophet (saw) and Suhaba, have the major share in the character development of a child.