Ok I have a question, what is the importance of walima?
I have heard, in Pakistan larki walai do not go to their daughter’s walima coz they believe it is not their function..
Do the boys family feel insulted if only the girl’s parents attend the walima and they do not bring their relatives along.
Please advise?
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no way man.. here, the same amt of ppl go on both days
in pak, the weddings i went to were where the bride/groom were from diff cities (lahore/gujranwala etc) so less ppl on the larki-walay side would go anyways.
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Usually the girl's side ends up inviting less people from their side to the valima. Like far fetched relatives and not close friends of the girls parents would usually only be invited to the wedding specially if they live in different cities. However, most of the close friends and family are invited to the valima.
The same is the case for the guys side. they invite many more people on the valima than on the baraat because the valima is from the guys side and baraat from the girl's.
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ditto what sumo said.
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hmmm .. all confused , dad says we will take 8 people to lahore for the walima ... FIL says we will be bringing 100 people to the wedding and it will be insulting if only 8 of your people turn up, at least bring around 25 people ..
Dad says normally girls family do not like to go to the valima function ..confused...
We dont have a large family,. and the ones that we do have they are arses .. so we are not on good terms ... in the end we are left with a few burzurg in the family ...
Fiance says if hardly anyone turns up at the valima , people will think there is something wrong with the girl's susral ..etc .
I am all confused about who does what !
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what about friends?
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Well 8 is definitely a very low number. Hire some people to act as ur relatives and friends :)
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Sumo … 
great idea …
I should have replaced my mamu’s long time back when they ditched us … 
lol though seriously they shouldnt pressure u but it will definitely look very odd if u guys show up at the valima with only 8 people. u guys must have long lost relatives, friends, acquaintances in whatever city the valima is taking place?
:paci:
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yaar Sumo, we have lived our entire life in England and UAE … my parents and all their cousins were inter family marriages .. So really that limited the prospects of having alot of relatives ! Especially when the few that do speak to us are scattered all over the world and cant come to pakistan for the wedding .. unless I manage to find a few long lost relatives on GS 
but you are right 8 is a very low figure no wonder my inlaws are jumping up and down with disappointment!!
I will have to beg my friends in islamabad to come to my walima .. what a life :hinna:
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its a 4 hr drive from islamabad to lahore
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you mean its alot of travel ? 
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no. i mean its so easy to get there!
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CB...you should have more then 8 people at the valima...otherwise it might look awkward. Also, you asked about the importance of the function...didnt ya?
Islamically...we only recognize the Nikah and Walima.
There is no concept of Shaadi, Barat, Rukhsati, Mehndi, etc.
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Sumo u r from ISB right ??
Cb here (GS) are many other members from Isb too..u can invite them and introduce them as a family/cousins..
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Kinzz , I am seriously thinking of doing just that 
My nana jee will surely faint when he sees my newly found cousins
this is called the height of desperation …
haha this is a first!!! amusing problem..i've never heard anything like it. so where is ur walima.. lahore or isb?
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Lahore, H09 ... thing is i do have family friends in lahore ..dad insists people feel awkward going to the girls valima when they arnt part of the immediate family.. dont know how true that is though?
Maybe you could hire a coach to transport all you family from Lahore to Islamabad if the travelling is an issue? We did that on my cousin's wedding from Multan to Pindi.
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CB im sure if your dad invited people along to the walimah, they won't feel awkward. When you invite people to daughers walimahs they could be told that they can bring a certain number of people with them, and the people being invited could be some of them.
No problem! :)