waiting for time to come

Lifestyle Relationships
,
21

Re: waiting for time to come

yeah some people our here assume a lot & then pass lame judgments based on that .... they think every girl who complains about being unmarried is either unhappy with her life or is depressed.

22

Re: waiting for time to come

s*x is the best exercise i have heard of...... it also helps you calm down and feel better, physiclaly mentally and emotionally.....

:D

23

Re: waiting for time to come

lol

24

Re: waiting for time to come

It does. But if you're not married, exercise is the second best.

25

Re: waiting for time to come

Are you the clown on this site?

26

Re: waiting for time to come

Not telling everyone that marriage is not important. It is...and its natural.

But suppose...you don't.

Then what?

27

Re: waiting for time to come

yeah after you & some other members on this site...

28

Re: waiting for time to come

[quote="Reha, post:13, topic:293067"]

Not telling everyone that marriage is not important. It is...and its natural.

But suppose...you don't.

Then what?
why would i suppose? i would not suppose.. think positive dear :)

29

Re: waiting for time to come

So true

30

Re: waiting for time to come

.

31

Re: waiting for time to come

Qul, will waiting around for marriage to take place make it happen any faster? Wait karne se kya koi kaam jaldi ho jaayega? The truth is that it won't and you know this. There are examples of prophets who had to wait decades for their duas to be fulfilled. Truth is we are all waiting for something or the other. Some people are waiting for basic things that you have already been blessed with such as roti, shelter, safety ...or they are waiting for relief from much more serious issues than you such as recovery from a deadly illness. I agree that a job cannot substitute for a husband. But the point that others are trying to make is that when you keep yourself occupied with various activities or goals, you won't dwell on marriage as much. I'm not claiming that you will completely stop thinking about it, but you will at least not be heavily consumed by it as you would be if you remain idle for long periods of time.

Agar tum job nahi karna chahti, then keep busy at home with something else such as increasing your ibadat or becoming regular in it if you aren't already, or developing a skill such as cooking or some other art. If you like writing about social issues, then how about extending that skill to a more hands-on level?

I don't think Reha's comment implies that she's depressed. If you don't like it when people assume incorrect things about you, then you also made an assumption about her; tum bhi wohi kar rahi ho and it makes you sound defensive. To think about more than one possibility is not called being depressed, it's called being realistic...and you live in the real world where there are people who are jobless, unmarried, childless, homeless, etc. If you want to look at it from a religious angle, then consider the example that we should hope for jannat but we can't ignore the possibility of hell either. Life doesn't stop for the unmarried, the childless, the sick, the heartbroken. You have to continue living ..keep busy.

If the purpose of this thread is to vent k kab hogi shadi...kab hogi shadi...kab hogi.....kyun nahi ho rahi shadi.....then I'm sorry but nobody on this forum nor the people who love you most such as your parents can answer that question. And as I said before that waiting will not make anything happen faster. The only thing people can do is suggest activities which can help to both divert your attention and help develop you as an individual. If exercise is suggested...it is not only for the depressed or the overweight....it's for everyone and it is known to make you feel better even if you're already feeling fine. The other option is to evaluate your requirements for a guy and readjust them if they are making it hard to get a rishta. If you don't want to hear the suggestions...or if you're going to become defensive and respond condescendingly....to phir tum kya chahti ho aur is thread ka maqsad kya hai? Other than venting, there is no purpose then.

32

Re: waiting for time to come

very nicely said. i appreciate your time that u have given me dear :)
reha is right and she also explained so nicely. but in my post i mentioned that i enjoy my life and im thankful to ALLAH for all the blessings.i said that SOMETIMES i feel so sick and irritating not everytime.it doesnt mean that im depressed and dying to get married.im enjoying every bit of my life but sometimes i wish to get married like every other girl.
as far as other possibilities are concerned, we should always think positive and try harder to get things done. nothing is impossible in this world :)

33

Re: waiting for time to come

That's the reason for your thread right there...no shaadi = depression for girls like you.

Agar shaadi na ho to zindagi ka maqsad hi kya hai right dear? :(

I am not against marriage.

I am against people thinking marriage is the ultimate goal in life. There are many many purposes for us as human beings aside from just procreating. Duniya pari hai...go travel. See the world. Help someone. Become a valuable member of society and useful instead of just taking up space until you're married "dears".

34

Re: waiting for time to come

you are right.but again what if im doing all the things u mentioned? i didnt say that this is my ultimate goal.when did i say this???? :S when did i write that im not enjoying my life, im depressing,im not studying etc ???

35

Re: waiting for time to come

baat kaa patangaR ban gayaa lol...Reha, life is equally fun-filled with or without marriage...i agree with you...merii bhii shaadii nahiiN huii magar maiN bhii bahot Khush huN, alHamdolillah! :)

36

Re: waiting for time to come

anyway.. may be you are right and im taking you wrong. lets leave it here and no more arguments.thanks for your time and concern DEAR ;) remember me in your prayers :)

37

Re: waiting for time to come

right there

marriage does not complete people...it simply compliments

if you're looking for something that's missing...it ain't marriage

38

Re: waiting for time to come

agree with you

39

Re: waiting for time to come

thanks :)
i need y

40

Re: waiting for time to come

thanks :)
i need your suggestion on career and academics section. i have started a thread. i will be thankful :)