But what i heard today, just put me in a huge shock :S
My own (single 21 year old) cousin is texting married males (her khaloo, the hubby of her sis even the devars of her sister, my brothers and my hubby as well and so on)
The smses are really wahiyaat (they cross the limit of rate me in my shalwar blabla) …She sent her khaloo such a wahiyaat sms that he just came to her house with a bad intention…and she run to my mamu’s home to hide from him…there she told the wife of my mamu’s son what happend (including the fact that she sent him texts with double intentions…
So when the wife of my mamu’s son told it to her hubby and they went to discuss it with the father of my cousin, she simply denied it and even said "main quraan uthaoon ghi, i didn’t send any text to him bablabl"she played it soo good that the poor wife of mamu’s son got a lable of lier and jealous female…
Another example: She sent seductive smses to the hubby of another cousin and the trend sets on..even the dever of her cousin and the dever of her own sis…the dever blocked her once on whatsapp…she started sending him texts on his second number…when he said it to her parents she started yelling and screaming "meyn kasam uthati hoon i didn’t do it…and out of blackmailing she stops havin food etc so her parents trust her immediatly)
Whenever someone wants to tell her parents about it she denies it (she deletes her smses immediatly/walks with 20 sim cards and as soon she is busted she puts her sim card away)…Her parents trust her blindly…don’t believe nyone else but her…us ka 1 hi dialoug he “meyn quran uthaney ko tayaar hoon” and her parents believe her…
So i was wondering if someone has some advice for me (she is also sending really akward smses to my brothers and my hubby :S …and i already told her parents, but they don’t believe me and see me as a dushman of their daughter)…i mean if her khaloo wanted to S** her i mean baat kafi bhar sakti hey…woh apney maa baap ki naak zuruur katwaye ghi if she continues like this… (her parents don’t want her to mary till 4/5 years from now…her brothers and sisters won’t say her nythin aswell)…
The whole situation is really disturbing me :S… i mean i knew there was a wahiyat sms trend in pk…but wthell :S
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^^Thats what my hubby told me aswell...but okay...i trust my hubby and know that my brothers hate her (all of them blocked her from their mobiles) but it is still fam...what if somethin happens and her parents can't show their face nywere?
Wahiyat sms trend in Pakistan effecting young girls...Advice?
This is really bizarre. In my social circle/family/acquaintances, i have never heard of girls sending mass texts like this to married/unmarried men in their family. Is this really a trend in Pakistan? Utterly ridiculous.
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i did know about the sms dating/flirting trend
ppl even got married by this... (wrong nmmr per calls/smses etc and one leads to another)
but this what my "cousin" is doin is reallyyyyyy bizarre :S i even don't wanna call her my cousin but what to do :S we can't chose our fam when we r born
but like seriously :S ....for the rest no one in my fam does things like this but guess there is always a black cheap in a fam :S
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This is exactly why I was surprised as hell the other day, when in nadz thread people were asking what is wrong with sending these kind of texts ..
you see, it all starts with little steps that go unnoticed .. and then one day it turns into a real issue .. like what happened with this girl .. when she would have started this , i can bet she wasnt that bold , but since no one noticed her actions , no one punished her , her parents look least bothered .. this gave her more and more courage and she's become the monster that she is today ..
you cant do anything other then distance yourself and warn your immediate family of this persons actions. If I were you, I wouldnt even call her my cousin anymore.
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I have no idea if it started innocent in the beginning…but okay …bout the punnisment…she won’t ever get punnised by her parents…us key maa baap ulta baat bataney waley ki khoob izzat kartey heyn key “how did u dare to talk about my daughter blabla” and the funny thing is…they don’t even wanna see what she is doing :S
I am sooo pissed of that i can;t do nythin :S… and yeah for me our relation of fam had broken the first day that she started textin my hubby and my brothers
If you were a female…and she was seducing your hubbie and even made ur hubby to s*x her than u would understand
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it sounds like her parents are in denial and don't want to check up on her. if multiple people are accusing her of the same thing then a lightbulb should have gone on in their heads. have the people who talked to her parents showed them the actual messages on their phone? it would be difficult for them to cover up for her in front of actual evidence...
Re: Wahiyat sms trend in Pakistan effecting young girls...Advice?
u can or any other family member just talk nicely with their parents that this age is good for getting married and some tareef of their beti :)hope they get agree and find solution
and even made ur hubby to s*x her