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so what's his height anyways?
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while i can understand your problem.
but is the height only problem here? how do you like him personality wise? or as a person? i guess if you like a person then looks may come later.
what if you find a Mr hunk later in life but not sincere or caring? what will you do with the looks only?? just to show people hey look at my hubby he looks awesome!!!
I know if you dont like his looks, you may not even think to like him personally cause you are least intersted.
I have been similar situation about my cousin, i wasnt engaged but everyone in family had made up minds about it. I stood up against it on the basis of just cause I didnt like her not in looks but as person, I didnt think that we are compatible. there was a resistance from everyone, the person who wasnt agreed was only me!!! my family had to agree with me. my mamo family doesnt speak to us anymore because of this. but are relatives only relatives if we marry ???? if yes then its better to be without such people.
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have you even tried to know him a little better? like talk to him on phone or chat with him.. or how about emails if nothing else? well... in my opinion.. you could atleast try and see how you like him.. cuz in my opinion looks really doesnt matter.. mayb you wont connect to him the way you expect to... but things change..... just the thought.... :)
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hes not five foot 1 is he?
Although I sooo know where you are comin from sista. Short guys are kinda chipped on the shoulder anyway. Plus imagine going out and you want to wera heels, how ridiculous would that look. Look out for guys named chris who are 6 foot 6 ish and drop dead gorgeous. Your parents will hate him but at least the kid'll be tall. Kinda lost? Hota hai :)
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If you don't stand up for yourself now, you never will. It's your life, YOU have to live with this person for the rest of your life and raise kids with him, not your mom, not your sis not your uncle. Either take a stand or go with the flow. But don't be complaining later on........
Interesting sidenote, why are all plain and ordinary looking people assumed to have wonderful sincere and caring personalities while all the good looking ones are presumed to be selfish, conceited and evil? Insecurity perhaps?
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ask his ex-gf'z about his love making skills. that should be of some consolation. :)
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^ and they say only men have a one-track mind.
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^was just trying to save the potential marriage.
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no offensive but i am sorry to say u r looking down to ur own race which is not good 
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evidently u have made up ur mind.anyways its all about tradeoffs.u want out,u want minimum fuss,u want to keep ur dignity n ur familys,u have to think abt ur sister,at the same time u dont want to hurt him coz his features r god given n u wud seriously hurt him and making that an issue is just not right.
1)talk to him n delay the marriage on some phony pretext,that will buy u time
2)u have to sacrifice something,get ur friend to poison his mind against u so he is the one who leaves u
3)talk to him privately n lie to him that u love someone else
4)or just use the age old lie keh istikhara is against him
5)WEN ALL DOORS R CLOSED JUST DO ISTIKHARA N GO WITH IT
6)evrything comes at a cost,u want something so be prepared to pay ,come what may
7)i will repeat,arrange for person X to poison his mind against u,he will feel like a fool n break it off on some pretext himself.
8)wat some people once did was that they got the guy into an apartment,drugged
him n took his nakey pics but he was a bad guy so in a pervert way it was ok.evidently u have no friends who wud go to such lengths
ISTIKHARA kar lo yaar,thats the safest option which will have no repurcussions at all
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call it off! Its not worth it. Ask your parents whats more important to them, making you live through hell or going against their family?
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sweetness once a woman came to HAZRAT MUHAMMAD :saw:
and said that i do not like my husband he is not good looking.
HAZRAT MUHAMMAD :saw: asked her if he provided her everything and whether she was comfortable at home . she agreed , but then again she said the same thing.
HE told her to get divorced immediately.
there’s no such restriction on any woman or girl to marry some1 whom she does not like.
sorry i do not have any link to prove this, but u can ask some 1 who has a detailed knowledge about this incident.
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Sweetness,
Are his looks really that bad? You said he's okay looking and about the same height. If he's shareef, has a good personality, and has a steady job, what more could you want? I don't know about you, but I would never want a guy who is better looking than me. Overly good looking guys are usually vain, and often have a wandering eye. And plus, you don't want to be known as the plain Jane in the relationship. As far as height is concerned, my husband and I are about the same height (if I wore a heel, I was taller than him). I was really concerned about it at first, but then I thought, to hell with everyone. My guy's very nice and loving and I'm proud he's my husband. I wear high heels whenever I want, and neither of us gives a rat's ass what anyone thinks. As a matter of fact, he's proud to have me by his side. In the US, it's not unusual to see a woman who is taller than her man, especially in the celebrity circle.
Before calling it off, can you get to know him a little better? He may not be number one in the looks department, but he probably has a lot of other things to offer. If you are truly repulsed by him, then you can always call it off. I don't understand how you came to the conclusion that you think he's so unattractive. Didn't they show you a picture before your rishta became pukka? Maybe deep down, you're scared because you don't know him so well and are using his looks as an excuse. Speak up to your parents before it gets permanent. Rishtay are hard to find, and it would be a shame to let one go before you give him a real chance.
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c mon c mon tell us ur thoughts,we r all wondering wats going on in that troubled mind of urs.
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i sympathize with ya. it can be tuff in our society dealing with parents pressure on marriage. but if u marry the guy due to parents pressure its not fair to u or him. my advice tell the guy. email him and call it off. its ur right.
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i dont believe its simply a matter of ascertaining her right,its now a lot more complicated.the issue of right was in the initial stages not after 2 years wen a lot more is stake as she herself tells.
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marry him, I was in exactly your shoes a few years ago. its not easy.. but worth it.
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sweetness^ , read it again!
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I think she now knows what to do. Dope asked the right questions. Don't break it off because of height, Girl. Be Practical. What if he breaks it off because of your height, color or weight? What would that mean to you?