I am sorry to burst YOUR bubble but the fact of the matter is, if a girl spreads her legs for another guy she got DRILLED. I don't care what kind of relationship they are sharing, whether it was a marriage like one of your friends or an illegitimate one like the other. I don't like to beat around the bush my friend.
I don't pass judgments on these people either. They did what they did and that's not my problem. But since your friends openly admit they lost their virginity, it's pretty safe to say they got nailed or if it makes you feel any better, they had sex. Happy?
I haven't anywhere suggested that the words you are using are inaccurate. I am merely asking what need there is to be as graphic as you are being.
Again......the way we communicate with each other is a reflection of who we are......so whatever rocks your boat.