Virginity is just a mental state. Wouldn’t you rather desire someone who has had some experience and chooses to spend the rest of his/her life with you THAN someone whose only been with you and wondering what if?
Let’s keep morality out of this assuming everything else, character-wise is fine.
I am not propagating that one should go out and loose virginity. It should be guarded like nothing else but once lost for whatever reason…
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kion why cant we apply:@:
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i agree! Plus virgins tend to be more clingy than non virgins. Virgins dont know what else is out there, Whilst non virgins have been there dun that had the mistake, gain'd the experienced, and what do you get? One HAPPY husband!
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In some case more then just happy husbands. Some time they make more ppl happy then just husband.
Once a thief always a thief .
Once a thief always a thief .
So there is no room for rehab? If a thief, cut his hands; if out of wedlock sex, stone 'em?
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nope till that thief is been my gf for a long time. Or if she is honest enough so I can trust her.
now we both know honesty is not known to our ppl, period. so..
Virginity is just a mental state.
What does that mean funguy?
Wouldn't you rather desire someone who has had some experience and chooses to spend the rest of his/her life with you THAN someone whose only been with you and wondering what if?
If you meant virgins have no clue then it is a misconception.
Let's keep morality out of this assuming everything else, character-wise is fine. I am not propagating that one should go out and loose virginity. It should be guarded like nothing else but once lost for whatever reason...
The relationship depends on level of tolerance of both individuals.
Men in general are not comfortable of woman who was not virgin, especially in certain societies. Men from any society will still be suspicious or uncomfortable inside however. That's just how men are.
Now, in some instances, men try to run away from even dating virgin girls since they are afraid of either feeling guilty of taking advantage of her or are not ready for commitment.
On the other hand, women are also not comfortable to marry a past player but they have more tolerance compared to men. They may not like it but are more willing to settle once they are reassured.
nope till that thief is been my gf for a long time. Or if she is honest enough so I can trust her.
now we both know honesty is not known to our ppl, period. so..
By my standards that is a sad approach to have towards life in general.
A rehab'd person is not going to be someone's gf for any amount of time let alone a long time. And if everyone had the same approach as you did this person wouldn't have a hope in hell of establishing a long-term, monogamous relationship. But funguy asked us to leave morality out of this.....
Men in general are not comfortable of woman who was not virgin, especially in certain societies. Men from any society will still be suspicious or uncomfortable inside however. That's just how men are.
At the risk of sounding really naive, can I ask why?
Why are men like this?
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dude i think in marrying a person there are tons of other things taht come to play and i'm not gonna lie virginity does play a part ... but to be honest ... in my case if i love someone enough and they click all the other boxes for me ... then i'd probably let this one go
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Yeah. Especially since we are so forgiving of men's past.
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Its always good to see that Pakistanis can make generalizations about people and their mentality based on the stupidest ideas on the face of the planet.
If there was need to worry about our future, this website is enough of an example.
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I agree with Mixed Beauty. And i dont think I would want to marry a man who is a virgin either.
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The same guys who say this crap would shoot people for taking away the virginities of their sisters.
Its always good to see that Pakistanis can make generalizations about people and their mentality based on the stupidest ideas on the face of the planet.
If there was need to worry about our future, this website is enough of an example.
I agree CM. We're all doomed.
By my standards that is a sad approach to have towards life in general. A rehab'd person is not going to be someone's gf for any amount of time let alone a long time. And if everyone had the same approach as you did this person wouldn't have a hope in hell of establishing a long-term, monogamous relationship. But funguy asked us to leave morality out of this.....
Fair enough if she does that she have my respect.
believe it or not I would be most forgiving person you will ever speak to. I know its hard to believe.
But at same time I am just too sick of our culture of deception. Cant tolerate it any more.
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once you said our thinking is based on our exposure to reality. Different words, but message was along these lines.
Get this I know ppl girls/guys who were exposed to sex at very young age. They are not the same as the rest.
They are much more prone to get into forbidden zone again.
Thing is if my wife sleep around she cant be my wife. I better make sure I don't get the kind who is slightly more likely to do so.
Ok now remember that sex is not always connected to our morals FOR SOME PPL IT GETS ATTACHED TO THEIR PHYSICAL SELF.
That happens to ppl who were molesd as childs and had sex at early age. UNLESS they are sexed out . they are not trust worthy.
dude i think in marrying a person there are tons of other things taht come to play and i'm not gonna lie virginity does play a part ... but to be honest ... in my case if i love someone enough and they click all the other boxes for me ... then i'd probably let this one go
Why would virginity be an issue in the first place? It's so commonplace amongst our society you can't believe anyone anymore.
I can ask a girl if she's a virgin and she'll say yes, but she could've done other things. So I have to take her word for it. There are more important things to find out about a girl before you marry her.
I'd ask a girl if she's a virgin to check if she is carrying anything, not because if she spread her legs for another man. If she was active in the past, i'd want her to get tested before marrying me.
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^ Yeah im sure she used condoms dont worry mate
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I wouldn't know because I wasn't there.
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Jimmy, I understand your concern when it comes to someone having a predilection for something due to previous experiences. Perhaps this will be a big issue for you to clarify before you settle down.
And Eye4Eye makes a good point in the medical history side.