Re: Virgins need not apply
It’s not so much that the person was a virgin or not. If someone else has been in the neighborhood previously, you can’t do much about that…
But its a matter of territory - men think their women should be unmarked. That they were the first visitors - gives them a sense of superiority
For me, if I meet a guy is no longer a virgin - whatever.
But if he has been a WOMANIZER, that is very different. Guys who have many one night stands - that tells you something about their character. They don’t care about people’s feelings. And moreover, if they tell me that they’re not SORRY about what they did, but all of a sudden they happen to now be 5x namaazi (I kid you not, one of the recent guys I was talking to was like this), that should be a warning sign. It means they are a HYPOCRITE.
People who are down to earth and CARE about other human beings, don’t behave like that. I can understand if something happened in the heat of the moment in a previous relationship. It’s hard to abstain from sex as you get up there in age. But its another if you are just womanizing and then you expect that your ammi, one day, will find some nice virgin girl for you to wed and settle down with, so you can go on to become a preaching mullah later in life with a bunch of kids. I’ve seen those cases too. Some of our most vocal local “mullah” types have had their fair share of mistresses and one-night stands.