Re: Virginity..
RKR, I wouldn't say anything since I have been issued a lot of warnings by fellow punjabi, Mr. Ehsan bhai- but read the highlighted parts of your own post.. Dont you think you are contradicting yourself? Why would be the moms be surprised at you if all Pakistani american gals are nice- if you would be a typical "sample" - so to speak.. wouldn't you be?? I can guarantee you about girls from Pakistan.. I have like cousins numbering close to 100 and among them girls are very very nice.. alhamdullilah. I guess we are just talking about out own experiences.. But just out of curiosity, I have a few questions for you(nothing personal)- 1) don't some Pakistani american gals like to have pre/extra marital relationships like goras? 2) Don't some dont like to say they have Pakistani origins?? 3) Is not it true that some Pakistani ameircan girls dislike their gusband for marrying another girl(which is very permissible in Islam)- who infact should be treated like a sister..
sister home?
First of all, the women I spoke to were recently immigrated from Pakistan. They didn't know very many families from here, and they certainly didn't know any girls who were born and raised here. Their social circles were still limited and so they were still brainwashed with the "American desi girls are bad" mentality. When they meet me, they find out that their thinking was wrong all this time.
1) Yes there are some girls who will have goray boyfriends, but it's few and far between. The majority of girls I know and grew up with were very good girls who wanted to get married to a desi in an honorable fashion. I also wouldn't judge the girls who do have boyfriends. Many of them have tried very hard to get married in the traditional fashion to a desi, but often times, desis reject them, leave them, etc. Sometimes, being with a gora is a last resort. But like I said, most desi girls here are very much into maintaining cultural ideals when it comes to marriage.
2) I've never had anyone deny being Pakistani. Some will say "people say I look Arab or Persian" but that's just to show off at how fair complected they are (again, a holdout from the Pakistani mentality back home).
3) Puhlease, polygamy is a totally different ball game, nothing to do with being born here, and no right minded woman likes to share her husband. How come every woman in a polygamous marriage in Pakistan (or anywhere for that matter) is miserable? Would you like your dad to come home to your mother with the news that he married another woman. "Sunnay, I brought you these ladoos. Mainay doosree shadi kar li hai. My new wife is 25 years old and thin and you better treat her like a sister." Or if two rishtay came for your sister, one from a single bachelor and one from a man who already has a wife, who do you think your family would pick? Even the Prophet's (saw) wives (RA) had trouble getting along with each other. Don't bring up polygamy--it has nothing to do with this thread.
I see someone like you, and I can't help but shake my head. Really, to be that ignorant and limited in your thinking. Perhaps you hang around with the wrong crowd or something.
See, only us Pakistanis are mistaken.
That way Pakistani is way better 
very simple soultion