Virginity a virtue?

[danial]

Re: Virginity a virtue?

@Sadz

HAEHAHEHA Sooo what do you do ask them if they are virgins? and then decide to be there friends? Like jeez as if its going to be written all over there faces. What if they lie to you? How the heck would you even know?

Weirdos

LOL, listen chika dont call me weirdo.

[Sadz]

Re: Virginity a virtue?

Or what? You wont be my friend??

[danial]

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@Sadz

Or what? You wont be my friend??

hahaha
fine you win.

[shweetdreamz]

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@Man with a Plan

In many cultural contexts, virginity is considered purity of mind, body and soul. **People think that if a person who is virgin is civil, obident, family-oriented, down to earth and stable. **Societies believe that these people have courage and critical thinking to stay that way and thus rank higher than others who don’t. Many see, who are not virgins, as immoral and unconscientious.

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but first of all…how do they know if you are a virgin or not?

[Sadz]

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Their psychic obviously :p

[sidz_angel]

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as a muslim girl or guy u are "expected" to remain a virgin

[WitchDr]

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Virginity means that the person has not been sufficiently tempted. In my own theory, if given enough time, proper temptation, and guarantee of secrecy no one will be .....

[nia_khan]

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[skhan]

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@Barfee

• Virginity is not a virtue.

• Virginity shouldn’t be used as a tool to judge people.

• People who are not virgins aren’t necessarily bad.

I dont really care for other people, but it would have made a difference in my decision if my fiance wasn’t a virgin.

You do realize you sound like a hypocrite right?

[Sara516]

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Lol any guy who says it doesnt matter if a grl is a virgin or not is full of crap.. its simple, if u do it with that guy, he'll assume ure willing to do it with any guy, n any guy who says otherwise is just trying to get u into bed.. :p (at least thats the advice i been given :D)

Yes, virginity does indicate someone's level of commitment to their faith.. zina is a sin.. its not the be-all end all factor but it certainly does matter.. its one thing if someone did it way before he or she met you and regretted their mistake and repented and tried their hardest to stay away from it again.. it shows that htey know what they did was wrong, but if he or she doesnt see having sex before marriage as a sin or they dont care, well that kinda indicates their character doesnt it..

[PaRtyGuyz]

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^^ oh c'mon Sara, How can you judge someone's Character by having sex, i know few guys, they sleep around but eat Only Halal. Nothing wrong with them, just can’t stop Sleeping around.
Secondly, a man doesn’t force any Gal to sleep with him, remember saying in Urdu"Talli Dono hath say bajti hai" just like that my friend, and mostly itz females who fall for crap like "i Love you baby or I am gonna marry you" we all know these Lousy Lines, but galz r buying them, gals are the One who enjoy more (sex). Bottom line is just don’t bring religion in this, there are many things, we do are Un Islamic or non-halal.

[Sara516]

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^ Don’t bring religion into sex?

Don’t go around blaming grls for falling for stupid shiit when its u guys who r passing out those stupid lines. Like i said its not the only thing that makes ure imaan, but it certainly is a big factor

[Grumpy]

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It takes two to have sex. Two people are at fault if they do break this religious code.

[sidz_angel]

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the question is "is virginity a virtue"
ok so ur talking about consensual sex
what about if it is rape? what then? is the girl/guy at fault then? is he/she considered unvirtuous?

[Sara516]

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I never said guys r the only wrong ones.. but dont blame grls for falling for stupid lines that guys give religiously , yeah both face the same consequences, socialy/culturally, no they dont

Rape is different, if a grl was raped, noone should assume they were unvirtuous.. unfortunately you’re going to have jaahil paindus who say it was the grl’s fault for being too attractive, for getting drugged, for being in the wrong place and wrong time, for or in the case of panchayat gang rapes, being the wife/mother/daughter/sister of the “criminal”..

[sidz_angel]

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ur rite about the social consequences
a girl is a slut
a guy is just sowing his wild oats befre settling down

[saieen]

Re: Virginity a virtue?

big issue over a small tissue

[desidudecool]

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Nobody dies a virgin,life fu$ks everybody.:D

[shweetdreamz]

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@saieen

big issue over a small tissue

sara i agree with when you said “Yes, virginity does indicate someone’s level of commitment to their faith”…thats about it. its an individual thing. between u and God.
unfortunately in our society even women that did not have pre-marital sex, but became widowed and are thus non-virgins are considered ‘stale’. if she does get a rishta again…most likely it will be a man with kids. On the other hand it is common for a non-virgin man, marrying second time, to end up with a never before married virgin woman.

[Man_with_a_Plan]

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Why is this unfortunate for her? I mean does he deserve a non-virgin?

Or If a non-virgin man marries a virgin girl, does this mean he is marrying someone he shouldn't be with? On what basis?

People, thanks for your input. Please stay with the topic. Thanks.