View on interracial marriage

[Bobby1]

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@redvelvet

And I don’t doubt that you are. The baddies are everywhere…out your window…under the bed…in the closet…

My friend Bridgette was dealing with an angry repugnant customer and she kept her cool after the customer left I asked her how she kept her cool and she said his life is his punishment. No it is not Gods will that some people have bad lives, it is a result of their nastiness that they are destined to marinate in bitterness forever by themselves.

[redvelvet]

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^Did that infamous angry customer throw footware at Bridgitte Ma’am? Oh dear

[akaprincess]

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@Rehman01

So, you don’t think the children would be able to accept both sides of their parents if they mixed. What would they have to choose? You mean if one parent was of a different religion? Wouldn’t they be able to enjoy both cultures? Be more well rounded?
In the end i guess we all want to be closer to what we know and are comfortable with…

Being more well rounded and enjoying both cultures would only happen if the parents put an effort to instill both cultures into the kids.

Half my uncles married white/black/asian/european women. Their kids, not one speaks any Pakistani language (we are pathan but know Urdu, Punjabi as well), dont eat desi food/movies/jokes, dont know much abouf Islam so they dobt follow any aspect of the religion, basically, nothing Islamic or desi related-ness is in them.

But they have completely embraced white/american culture. Even the kids of the asian/European aunt !! Cuz she didnt follow any of her asian/european traditions.

So - again, it alllllll depends on the parents

[akaprincess]

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@LP

It is difficult for an outsider to know the struggle the kids “may” be going through.

Everything comes with advantages and disadvantages

This couple though, are at least both Indian, so that is a big common background.

[mahool]

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@Bobby1

So if I was to voice concerns about the extra judicial and target killings by armed forces in your city and in Balochistan that would relate to
a. Human Rights
b. Candy in a jar

a… mager zarori nahi kay har insan har situation main right ho… main bhi jar wali candy hosakta hon… shayad appko main baz dafa lagta hon… iss main koi burai nahi hia… balky khud ko sahi karny ki zarorat hia… insan hi ghalti karta hia… aasmani farishyt nahi…

[Bobby1]

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@mahool

a… mager zarori nahi kay har insan har situation main right ho… main bhi jar wali candy hosakta hon… shayad appko main baz dafa lagta hon… iss main koi burai nahi hia… balky khud ko sahi karny ki zarorat hia… insan hi ghalti karta hia… aasmani farishyt nahi…

We are from different parts of the world and there is no possible way you can understand where I am coming from. The society I subscribe to, unsolicited advice is considered rude and and making judgemental statements are offensive also.

[Bobby1]

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@akaprincess

This couple though, are at least both Indian, so that is a big common background.

That was just one example, when I went to drop my boys lunch I ran into George(funniest and happiest kid ever) his mom is Russian, dad Iraqi and George is Canadian. Speaking hindi/urdu/german does not make you well rounded. If you are happy, have friends and are well adjusted and a positive member of the society than that in my eyes is well adjusted. My second door neighbors are very wealthy Palestinian family, they are second and third generation here. Their kids don’t socialise with non muslims, parents have parties every weekends and they never invite any other ethnicity, the guy does not talk to his neighbors, claims to be wealthy and does not mow his lawn. To my eyes that is not well adjusted.

[Rehman01]

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@akaprincess

Being more well rounded and enjoying both cultures would only happen if the parents put an effort to instill both cultures into the kids.

Half my uncles married white/black/asian/european women. Their kids, not one speaks any Pakistani language (we are pathan but know Urdu, Punjabi as well), dont eat desi food/movies/jokes, dont know much abouf Islam so they dobt follow any aspect of the religion, basically, nothing Islamic or desi related-ness is in them.

But they have completely embraced white/american culture. Even the kids of the asian/European aunt !! Cuz she didnt follow any of her asian/european traditions.

So - again, it alllllll depends on the parents

That’s actually kind of sad. Both cultures and Islam should be taught/introduced to them. It’s such a beautiful culture/Religion.
My husband has a cousin who lives in New Zealand and both parents are Pakistani and their children don’t know any Urdu…or Punjabi only English.

People don’t realize that this is how cultures die out…if they don’t pass on their languages, religion, food, traditions in general.

[akaprincess]

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@Rehman01

That’s actually kind of sad. Both cultures and Islam should be taught/introduced to them. It’s such a beautiful culture/Religion.
My husband has a cousin who lives in New Zealand and both parents are Pakistani and their children don’t know any Urdu…or Punjabi only English.

People don’t realize that this is how cultures die out…if they don’t pass on their languages, religion, food, traditions in general.

I agree- and this will definitely die out in the future generations, as its already happening.

Parents do have a responsibility to instill values etc in them. My cousin- the daughter of the asian/european decent aunt, claims she is 1/2 pakistani, 1/4 european, and 1/4 oriental asian. Well, dna wise, yes she is. But other than that, she is 100% white washed. So it makes me laugh whenever she so “proudly” tells people of the great mix she is. Im sorry, but my understanding is, yes you are all of those mixes, but do you know anything about those lovely cultures and traditions? No. So how can you claim being it?

But I guess it also depends on personality, i dont know. I also have a cousin who was raised by my mamoo and aunt- both pakistani muslims, practicing. And yet, he (my cousin) turned out athiest, married a white christian girl, and has no concept of our desi culture or religion (obviously) in him. So guess what hes going to be teaching his daughter about religion ?

[Rehman01]

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@akaprincess

I agree- and this will definitely die out in the future generations, as its already happening.

Parents do have a responsibility to instill values etc in them. My cousin- the daughter of the asian/european decent aunt, claims she is 1/2 pakistani, 1/4 european, and 1/4 oriental asian. Well, dna wise, yes she is. But other than that, she is 100% white washed. So it makes me laugh whenever she so “proudly” tells people of the great mix she is. Im sorry, but my understanding is, yes you are all of those mixes, but do you know anything about those lovely cultures and traditions? No. So how can you claim being it?

But I guess it also depends on personality, i dont know. I also have a cousin who was raised by my mamoo and aunt- both pakistani muslims, practicing. And yet, he (my cousin) turned out athiest, married a white christian girl, and has no concept of our desi culture or religion (obviously) in him. So guess what hes going to be teaching his daughter about religion ?

I think now, claiming to be XXXXX is just something that sounds exotic. Without the teachings and exposure to the the culture(s) and diversities, you’re right…it’s just the DNA you’re made up of. That’s sad for his parents. His children will miss out on so much truth.

This is why it upsets me that he won’t teach our children…inalready cook Pakistani dishes…they eat some and don’t eat some. But, it’s something. They learn and read about Pakistan. But, unless my husband can help them develop a love for Pakistan and being 1/2 Pakistani there’s only so much to be done.