Just wondering what the views are here about people who go to another country and marry someone of another ethnicity…religion etc.
Mine are to each his own. Whatever makes him happy and it’s legit then live on.
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A lot of our younger generation is marrying interracial interfaith but they are dating / living together for few years. Things are working out really well for them.
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I wouldn’t prefer marrying someone of another ethnicity or faith but I won’t judge someone who does. To each his own.
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I dated this Moroccan lady, half Arab, half Berber, big brown eyes, hijab, very pretty, nothing sexual though…
After few months, realized I was a desi at heart so broke up!
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hypothetically…if you did marry interracially…as we get older would we want what we are raised with? Or is that more of a mind set?
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I was with Dianne for 7 years, amazing relationship that my family didn’t bless, now my partner is a desi Muslim girl and although things are a bit up and down but there is a greater comfort and connection. We can sometimes laugh at the same jokes, enjoy the same foods, music etc. Kids are born n raised here and we didn’t raise them with desi values so they will be more comfortable in the western society. If you can find a desi with same interests then that is the best but for an active person like you that would be hard.
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I personally would want to be connected to my roots and want my children to be so too. I don’t want my kids to be raised as confused individuals choosing between their dad’s culture or the mom’s.
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So, you don’t think the children would be able to accept both sides of their parents if they mixed. What would they have to choose? You mean if one parent was of a different religion? Wouldn’t they be able to enjoy both cultures? Be more well rounded?
In the end i guess we all want to be closer to what we know and are comfortable with…
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After few years in a foreign land, when I was looking to get married, girls who spoke in my native language gave me such a nostalgic feeling that I couldn’t resist and quickly married one. During the honeymoon phase, I don’t think it matters much but when things get rough I think it is vital. If one is yearning for a deeper connection and have strong connection to their own roots, it gets even more difficult as we start missing our culture and traditions. Difficult situation but workable.
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As for belonging to a different religion, that’s a total no for me. In fact, I want my husband to be as practicing as I want my children to be. Children learn by what they see more than what you teach them. I want their parents to be examples for them.
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An interfaith marriage would have been out of question for me, because in my eyes that would mean that at least one of the spouses would have to compromise on their faith. I have also never seriously considered an interracial marriage for myself, but that would have been an option at least.
I have a lot of friends who are or have been in interracial/interfaith marriages though. Some are happily married, some are not so happy and some are seperated/divorced. I would say the percentages are quite similar to people marrying within their faith and/or within their race.
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I agree…to each his own. Just because I personally don’t approve with someone’s decision doesn’t mean that I’m going to stop them from living their life. However, I am entitled to expressing my opposing opinion/beliefs just the same as someone who supports the matter.
So, here are my 2 cents. If your deen is important for you, then I believe it’s better to marry someone of the same religion who also sees it as a top priority. I know that marrying a woman from the ahl-e-kitab is allowed, but the people of ehl-e-kitab of TODAY are overall very lax/dheelay in following their own faith; it’s a diluted form of Christianity/Judaism. So, if one is going to convert…hopefully it’s not a “conversion of convenience”…and is done with sincerity with an honest determination to practice Islam as well. While I understand that marriage includes components such as mutual attraction, chemistry/compatibility…at the same time I feel that it doesn’t stop there…one should think about their kids, their aanay wali nasal. And if one has firm iman/yaqeen in the hereafter and that one is accountable for their choices and deeds …including tarbiyat of kids…then deen will/should matter when it comes to marriage.
But in spite of my beliefs…to each his own. People can do whatever they want; there are consequences for everything.
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When 99.7 percent of the people in ur homeland are of a different ethnic and cultural background you are seriously limiting your chances of finding a good fit.
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I don’t have any kind of problem with interracial marriage. When it comes to interfaith, well it would be out of the question for myself personally. If a Muslim man or woman involved in it, I would view it through the perspective of deen. Now just because I may not agree with their choice in that matter, it doesn’t mean that I’ll impose my view on them or anything like that.
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Well rounded? If you’re living the west, your children will come across cultural/religious diversity when they leave their homes and go about everyday mundane activities like shopping, etc. Your children will come across diversity in their education from the primary grades to university…and then also the workplace. Traveling also provides such exposure. And don’t forget the media (books, movies, etc).
There is no shortage of experiences that can contribute toward a well-rounded development in children. One does need to make certain that they marry a person of a different religion to ensure their children turn out “well-rounded.”
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When I stated “well rounded”!i mean that they would have the best of both worlds. Whatever ethnicity their father and whatever their mother is. If both parents are willing to teach them both sides of their cultures…whether it’s Arab/Pakistani or Australian/Indian…whatever it is…so, I’m not sure what you mean by “One does need to make certain that they marry a person of a different religion to ensure their children turn out ‘well rounded’”
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Why would the child(ten) have to choose? I can see that if parents are not the same faith. But, ethnically wouldn’t they enjoy both sides of where they come
From? (I ask especially bc you mentioned you have two different ethnicities…)
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One of my kids friends, both parents are Indians, Mom is a christian and dad a sikh. They are both specialist doctors. They seem to be having a blast and the kids are really smart and well adjusted. None of them are too religious.
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They don’t usually face issues within their family. The issue arises when they are in gatherings. As I explained earlier, none of the sides accept them as their own. Oh and if the two countries are not on good terms with each other , the people you meet keep asking you where your loyalties lie and then either consider you a traitor (when your loyalty doesn’t lie with theirs) or consider you a liar (when your loyalty lies with theirs).
Every other new person I meet asks me about whom I support. I’m tired of answering it over and over. Tired of having to validate my choices to these outsiders.
But, I would never want it to be different because I believe I am not as biased as I would have been if my parents were the same.