Yeah but I am confused and hopes that if this guy really is a divorcee, he does not contact me ever again. Thats why I have told him that we now know about his divorce.
Just because he is a divorcee doesn't mean that he can't/won't say no to other proposals. Not to be unkind to you, but what he and his mother expect for him may be different than you - they may want a different girl.
As for how someone behaves - who knows what goes through the mind of a liar. Education is not a measure of sharafat.
You have the option of not letting him contact you :)
Be honest, you like him and hope its works out for you. there should be no shame in it, after all its yr life and you have every damn right to select whoever you want.
Yaar its just that he keeps on contacting me again n again which makes me think he is interested and is really fighting for me with his mom. But now that I have told him that we KNOW about his divorce and kid, he shud not have the guts to contact me again.
ONLY THIS MATRIMONIAL SITE SHOWS HIM TO BE DIVORCEE. NO OTHER PLACE like facebook, My Space etc shows that he is Divorcee. He has stated that HE IS SINGLE there.
I like him IF AND ONLY IF he is Not divorcee. It was all arranged, nothing personal from my side. But I would not tolerate any fraud and deception.
well if you are a divorcee, and not remarried, you are technically single. so fb, myspace blah blah are not contradicting anything. btw, whats up with having him on msn, fb, myspace etc. after you claim to have no interest in him anymore? :\
Yaar its just that he keeps on contacting me again n again which makes me think he is interested and is really fighting for me with his mom. But now that I have told him that we KNOW about his divorce and kid, he shud not have the guts to contact me again.
Um, you've described his contacting you as a forward of chain emails - that may be carelessness on his part rather than an effort to maintain contact or communication. Don't make it out to be more than it is.
ONLY THIS MATRIMONIAL SITE SHOWS HIM TO BE DIVORCEE. NO OTHER PLACE like facebook, My Space etc shows that he is Divorcee. He has stated that HE IS SINGLE there.
I like him IF AND ONLY IF he is Not divorcee. It was all arranged, nothing personal from my side. But I would not tolerate any fraud and deception.
Single and divorced are the same thing. Never been married before and divorced are not. So, just because FB and Myspace show he is "single" doesn't mean that those profiles are wrong.
D'oh! Queer beat me to it -se queer's comment above.
No, thats why I wanted to let him know that we NOW know about his divorce n kid. But he still had kept me on his msn contact list. Is it normal for guys to keep girls on contacts after 'break-up'?
No, it is not normal to keep your contact after such lie.
He has no self respect.
Thats what I am saying. He should have some self respect to not to contact me again if he REALLY is a divorcee. Only this matrimonial profile shows him divorcee which people can make just for time pass. I would have easily believed him if his divorced status was mentioned on facebook or my space.
Thats what I am saying. He should have some self respect to not to contact me again if he REALLY is a divorcee. Only this matrimonial profile shows him divorcee which people can make just for time pass. I would have easily believed him if his divorced status was mentioned on facebook or my space.
If you really dont want him to contact you, conjure up some guts and block his email, msn etc after telling him off.
I agree with queer who said that even if you are a divorcee you CAN be single on fb.. its not a lie-detector website or a technically or morally correct place. I know some people who are either widowers and divorcees and they have written their status as single.
well if you are a divorcee, and not remarried, you are technically single. so fb, myspace blah blah are not contradicting anything. btw, whats up with having him on msn, fb, myspace etc. after you claim to have no interest in him anymore? :\
I have not added him anywhere. Its just that I saw his fb and my space profile. And fb doe have a DIVORCED option, isn't it?
I only have this interest in him that he still keeps on contacting me by sending me forward emails. May be he has American thinking where he just wants to be in touch. But he knows I am desi and I do not want to be in touch with him.
If you really dont want him to contact you, conjure up some guts and block his email, msn etc after telling him off.
I agree with queer who said that even if you are a divorcee you CAN be single on fb.. its not a lie-detector website or a technically or morally correct place. I know some people who are either widowers and divorcees and they have written their status as single.
I have blocked him the same day it was over. The emails were exchanged between him and my mom, Of course I used to send them, my mom does not know computer. But he still keeps on sending me forward emails which he also sends to the WHOLE of his family. Why is he doing that?
I have blocked him the same day it was over. The emails were exchanged between him and my mom, Of course I used to send them, my mom does not know computer. But he still keeps on sending me forward emails which he also sends to the WHOLE of his family. Why is he doing that?
He just wants to keep you as an 'option'. He may like you somewhat (cannot discard that) but things you have stated here are not adding up to make his case strong. Obviously he wants the door to stay open in case things happen. If i were you, I would block his email address too OR at least have a talk with him about this divorcee thing and see what he has to say.
I have not added him anywhere. Its just that I saw his fb and my space profile. And fb doe have a DIVORCED option, isn't it?
I only have this interest in him that he still keeps on contacting me by sending me forward emails. May be he has American thinking where he just wants to be in touch. But he knows I am desi and I do not want to be in touch with him.
No, it is not really American thing. American are also more sensitive in such situation.
Single and divorced are the same thing. Never been married before and divorced are not. So, just because FB and Myspace show he is "single" doesn't mean that those profiles are wrong.
D'oh! Queer beat me to it -se queer's comment above.
He has been sending one forward email every month to be more precise and there is this trend where he send the forward email to me as well as to all of his family. When I had kept him on chats, he did not send any forward email but became online regularly just to be in sight I guess.
But since the time I have deleted him from both the chats, he is sending these forward emails, one each month.
If you have decided you aren't interested in him then why do you want to know the reason he is sending you those emails... if it annoys you simply block him.
He has been sending one forward email every month to be more precise and there is this trend where he send the forward email to me as well as to all of his family. When I had kept him on chats, he did not send any forward email but became online regularly just to be in sight I guess.
But since the time I have deleted him from both the chats, he is sending these forward emails, one each month.
Sweety, you're reaching - you WANT him to want you and you want to justify his behaviour. What you need to accept is that he is a liar - either about being divorced or about being single.
Chalk it up as a bad experience, block him on chat and emails and forget about him. Wasting time thinking about a guy where it's not going to go anywhere is doing yourself a disservice. You deserve better than a liar. Good luck!
He just wants to keep you as an 'option'. He may like you somewhat (cannot discard that) but things you have stated here are not adding up to make his case strong. Obviously he wants the door to stay open in case things happen. If i were you, I would block his email address too OR at least have a talk with him about this divorcee thing and see what he has to say.
Why would I talk to him about his divorce when things were already finished? I just informed him we NOW know about his divorce and wish him good luck. He DID reply to my last email by saying 'THANK YOU MUCH'. He could have just ignored my email and not reply to it or explained about his divorced. BUT HE REPLIED by saying THANK YOU MUCH
I have always been writing to him on my mom's behalf and he knows that its my family who had initiated contact with his family.
I have seen one divorcee person.. actually he was my friend and he was divorcee and has one daughter.. but on fb he has “single” status. you cannot say that he is lying if he is showing single instead of divrocee. whats the difference yaar. divorcee is single too… isn’t it??
your guy has not mentioned anywhere “never married” or has he???
If you have decided you aren't interested in him then why do you want to know the reason he is sending you those emails... if it annoys you simply block him.
Should do that if he sends another email :D
But it was heck of an experience and wanted to share with you all. See these things happen and we are soo stupid we cannot identify such people
Why would I talk to him about his divorce when things were already finished? I just informed him we NOW know about his divorce and wish him good luck. He DID reply to my last email by saying 'THANK YOU MUCH'. He could have just ignored my email and not reply to it or explained about his divorced. BUT HE REPLIED by saying THANK YOU MUCH
I have always been writing to him on my mom's behalf and he knows that its my family who had initiated contact with his family.
Sweety, you're reaching - you WANT him to want you and you want to justify his behaviour. What you need to accept is that he is a liar - either about being divorced or about being single.
Chalk it up as a bad experience, block him on chat and emails and forget about him. Wasting time thinking about a guy where it's not going to go anywhere is doing yourself a disservice. You deserve better than a liar. Good luck!
Sehrysh makes sense. If you dont wanna talk to him, more power to you. No points for wondering why he replied to your mail. because it is such a small thing as compared to the bigger picture everyone here would like you to see. In bigger picture it may not matter why he replied to you.
Close all means of communication; your email, mom's email.. all.
Sweety, you're reaching - you WANT him to want you and you want to justify his behaviour. What you need to accept is that he is a liar - either about being divorced or about being single.
Chalk it up as a bad experience, block him on chat and emails and forget about him. Wasting time thinking about a guy where it's not going to go anywhere is doing yourself a disservice. You deserve better than a liar. Good luck!
Yeah I am trying my level best to forget everything. Afterall, it was all arranged. But this has certainly taught me many things.
