Re: Very personal question
Ruqi,
Have you considered trying to find someone on your own? The rishta process can be something like a minefield when you're dealing with an illness- (or a past illness). I completely understand where you are coming from; and I think that it is necessary to tell the person- but only him. His family does not need to know; it sounds like your parents are the ones communicating this, and it should be you.
The tricky bit about rishta's that go through the parents only is that they can interact with you very minimally, so being able to build up to you telling him is even harder. I disagree with what some have said; that you should let this go veryy far and then tell them; the last thing you want is to get emotionally vested in a person; and then see them walk away for something like this.
The best scenario, in my opinion, would be to find someone that you can build a friendship with first, tell them in that stage, before considering anything else. It's rough, but in the end iA it will be worth it :-)