M03 - while I agree with you about no need to discuss it at the first meeting, I think it's equally important to discuss it before marriage.
You see you pointed out the "benign tumor" - This is how you immediately saw it - that's a plus point! But others MAY not see it that way and may have FEARS - which can easily be discussed... and it's a better way to be informed in a relationship that will be heading towards marriage.
NJMasti what I'm telling again and again it was for benign tumor so she has to take expensive medicine for whole her life. She must have had a whole in the place where they started cutting her head. She can't hide at all. If that whole is on her forehead everyone will see.
She need a caring person who could understand not from dhoka who could give her hard time to make her out of her senses.
my neice who has just turned 5 has brain tumour we jus found out in january and she had 90% removed by operation which was really good the rest is left on chemo! however all her mum thinks is she has no future now..and it really annoys me because its no fault of my neice or anyone its just the way Allah made it...Allah makes or joriyaan and we come to this world with out naseeb and taqdeer already written its just a matter of it happening! now if epopel are refusing because of ur past then they are stupid! they mayeb healthy people 2day but nobody knows what can happen the next minute..god forbid those that are healthy can develop tumours etc. If they are refusin purely on the grounds of ur past then thats silly and its not meant to be! your tumour isn't your personality and they should get to know u for who u not for who ur tumour is!
i think its good that u do tell them because theres always someone that will open there mouth and say something! its part of you and u shouldnt be ashamed, allah has made someone for you and when the time comes that right person will come!
i hope everything works out for you and just be happy and think about what you've achieved and how far you hav come! all the best! x
Exactly.
Yes thats why I said "Sure, before marriage takes place you should fill him in on your past medical history - but if its all in the past and it isnt something that is part of your life today then no need to announce it at the first meeting as if its some huge ongoing issue"
Many benign brain tumors can be removed and the patient cured without recurrence and without effect. So if this is the case here, which it sounds like, then its kind of foolish to make a huge deal of it at the first meeting or even before the first meeting.
Yes Benign tumor can be removed but the person has to take expensive medicine for whole her life. and skiping only for 2 days make her out of senses.
His parents are doing good for her.
MO3 Google can't tell you that even in benign tumor she has to take her expensive medicine.