Very much upset !

[Sara516]

@diamond321

I know a family where the MIL does not send the bahus to their mahkas when they give birth. She let them go when the 40 days after child birth are complete. According to her what insaniyaat there is to send your bahu to her parents home when she is not physically fit to take care of herself and her baby…meaning that bahus are only allowed to live in susraal when they are healthy & are able to do work , once they are not able to work and need someone to look after them they should pack their bags and go back to their parents. In my own family my mother and all the other bahus in the family never went to their mahka for child birth. It’s inhumane and it just shows that we don’t need you around when you aren’t fit and we are just using you and don’t really care for your well being.

So then why in some cases, the mother comes and stays wiht the girl during her last few weeks?

I do see your point, however I always assumed it was because during a time like this, a girl needs her mother and own family around…just for the comfort and being able to say/do whatever…no matter hwat, in laws cannot replace your own family ESPECIALLY if its hte typical first pregnancy that happened right after the marriage and you’re still “new”…I know whatever situation I was in, I would want to be with my mother.