Salam everyone..I’m very much helpless and dont know what to do that’swhy i again come here..My hubby is giving me more and more slangs day by day and making me mad even during my pregnancy..Dont have any option right now..Feeling very alone..Also passing from a very bad health during my pregnancy bcoz of hubby’s torture..
I know for all these things my in-laws are responsible and they are destroying my home.
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slangs? Like negative slangs? Or do you mean profanity?
very cheap and dirty words which no one can listen ..
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Was he always like this? Is he seriously swearing at you or just using too much curse words in general?
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omg...where are you based? i am telling social services man...i mean you are prego and he is saying nasty stuff...its soooooo guna affect you mentally and you poor kid physically...!
if i wud be you..i wud tell him to leave me alone etc and den sort him out once the baby is born...until then chilll...do not take his bull****...
sorry if i am being a bit rude or anything....it just really offended me that ur hubby is saying crap while you are preggo..:( may God bless you...xx
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So he calls you names? Like bad language? Do you live with your inlaws? Do they try to stop him ever?
I cannot imagine living in that environment...you're brave but you will have to be even more so now.
Can you two move out?
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So saddddddddddddd......krazy man
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Oh wait, you’re that same girl who got married to her b/f after 6 years of knowing him and were complaining about housework and saying you will die living in that house. I thought your husband lived in Dubai.
So apparently you didn’t listen to anyone’s advice about going back to your parents… and OMG, you’re pregnant now? 
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^^ omg was it a really love marriage? :S
i am scared now...
Have you confronted him about his verbal abuse? Does he just do it randomly or do you do something in particular that irritates him? Not that that's any excuse for his rotten behaviour, I'm just trying to understand why he'd do such a thing especially after what you're going through.
I'd make it clear to him that this is not the sort of environment you want to be bringing up your baby in. So, if he continues to act the way he is he knows where the door is. You have enough on your plate already without having to deal with his hissy fits.
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^^ omg was it a really love marriage? :S
i am scared now...
I think she's a teenager or really really young, not ready for marriage.... she was complaining about fetching water for him and ironing his clothes as far as I can remember.
Don't be scared :)
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What is the point of complaining about this when it clearly looks like you didnt' take ANY advice whatsoever from your past threads.
^I think she's a teenager or really really young, not ready for marriage.... she was complaining about fetching water for him and ironing his clothes as far as I can remember. Don't be scared :)
or may be a troll :)
I think she's a teenager or really really young, not ready for marriage.... she was complaining about fetching water for him and ironing his clothes as far as I can remember. Don't be scared :)
aww thanks...:)
What is the point of complaining about this when it clearly looks like you didnt' take ANY advice whatsoever from your past threads.
^That's what I thought as well.
I understand that nobody is obligated to follow the advice given here........but SOOO many members (both male and female) advised you not to marry him in the first place because of this exact problem that you're telling us about....for the umpteenth time. It's not like you were unaware. You saw how abusive he was even before the wedding.
Can't dump all the blame on your husband.....do also put considerable amount of blame on yourself for lacking self-respect. It wasn't like your parents were forcing you to marry him.....they disapproved of his behavior and were supportive.
Keep in mind that pregnancy causes irritability and mood swings.....so you may react stronger than usual to some behaviors/comments that otherwise may not be such a huge deal. You haven't provided details about what problems you're facing. Could you perhaps take a break and go live with your parents for a while? Try that.......it'll give you peace......allow you to clear your mind.....and think more rationally about how to approach your issues and what needs to be done.
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Yup, I just read a couple of your other threads pertaining to this gem of a guy; you met him over the net when you were 15 and he was 22. Since you met him in person; stuff has always been blowing up; he treats you like crap at times; cuts off contact for days at a time; his mom has always treated you like shyte, and all this BEFORE you got married. And lots of people warned you that things would only get worse. I guess they were right.
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go stay at ur parents home until the baby comes..lots of girls do this
maybe after the baby comes he will get better with u too..
It never happens. An abuser will always stay an abuser even after he becomes a father.
I agree with RV.
I will be completely honest with you here. You can not do much till the baby is born. What best you can do is to stay with your family. I can tell you with full confidence that he will not change and also his family. Because your own sikka is khota , so don’t even expect them to be on your side when you own husband is the one who does not respect you and care for you. Till your baby is born think about you future. Think how you can take care of yourself and your baby on your own in future ? what you need to do to completely stop depending on your husband ? what future your baby will have with your husband ? I can promise you that one day you will have to get out of this marriage but yes you should wait till the baby is born. I don’t know what your husband think about the gender of baby , but if he wants a boy and you give birth to a girl , then be prepared for the worst.
Plan your future , you sound young to me, don’t let a looser & abuser destroy your and your baby’s life ! your marriage should not be the end of your life and happiness.
I have been there and I wish you good luck 
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God, this is horrible. He didn't change, and won't ever. It's sad that you had a ton of advice from everyone here, I'm talking long essays that people put time and thought into to genuinely help you, and you didn't listen when you could.
Please make dua, there's only so much you can at this point.
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Yes i'm back from dubai but hubby is still there.Now i'm living with my parents here in karachi just bcoz my in-laws don't want to take this responsibility thatswhy hubby sent me at my parents home.Yeah i know i never acted on people's advices bcoz i was madly and deeply in love with him..Sometimes he acts like a totally lover and suddenly he starts abusive language to me..We had a very peaceful life in dubai thatswhy i decided to get pregnant there but things are again changed now.I know this thing is effecting my baby very much and thatswhy i m loosing my weight day by day but i m soo helpless .I dont have any way bcoz its the matter of baby now.