Re: Very disturbing
Treating an adopted son as your own is wonderful thing - for both the parent and the child. So is giving the same rights to the adopted child. The love I see in families where this takes place is beautiful. It benefits everybody - including the other siblings. The children grow up much more secure. They feel as they belong. They feel more loved. Every child needs that. I have seen parents where they have treated the adopted child differently, and the family was not near as functional or loving - and neither were the children when they grew up.
So I firmly believe it is the righteous thing to do to treat an adopted child as your own. It is the righteous thing to do. The only time I have heard of this not being the right thing to do (as a rule, there are always exceptions) is from Muslim literature. Really makes me wonder why some of these rules were put into place. It doesn't appear as it was for the benefit of the child. So for whose benefit was it?
Hi Semi
I have no disagreement treating adopted children as your own in responsibilities. The thing in Islam is though we should treat all people according to their rights and responsibilities. A brother in faith is just as dearer to me as my own child. As we say we must like the same thing for our brother as we would like for ourself.
You've got it wrong. Islam does not forbid adopting or helping orphans or anyone for that matter (except those fighting against Allah SWT). There are some rules that are tied to biological/blood relationships and adoptees do not qualify for blood relationship no matter what you may say. Marriage in Islam is forbidden based on certain biological relationships. Every muslim should endear other muslims whether biologically related to them or not. We do not marry with our direct biological related offspring or parents or brothers or sisters.
Having the freedom to marry someone who is not biologically related to you but though social circumstances and kindness is not oppression. Andit cannot happen unless the two agree also.