Very complicated & weird proposal experience..need girls advice

[ShimmerV]

Re: Very complicated & weird proposal experience..need girls advice

I dont get it? why does this thread have 159 posts

The first time I read the OPs post I didn’t even feel like replying cuz it was so umm immature (sorry!) so then how in gods name did it generate 159 posts?!?! Did I miss some amazing twist in the 24th post?

I thought the girl who has sex issues with her divorced guy will win the competition. Life01 you surprise me -.-

[redvelvet]

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^I don’t get it either. I wonder how far this thread would go if OP started getting just as snarky. Y’know…add more fuel to the already raging fire.

[pak2015]

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@PyariCgudia

What I’m failing to understand is why anyone would have religious/modesty expectations from a girl who asked them to watch porn with her, and then moreover who agreed to do that with her in the first place? It seems odd these things would be important to the OP, because what modesty was shown at the onset of the relationship?

OP, I think you already set her expectations at the beginning that you’re highly sexually open, and so she probably figured you fit well with her lifestyle of being out there and open with guys (multiple male facebook friends, lots of pics, etc). So then for you to to ask her to be more modest, dupatta, etc, in her mind is you doing a 180 on her.

This is why I say you gotta figure out what you’re all about, and what you want.

Are you a sexually liberal guy and you are looking for a sexually liberal girl? Because that means she will be sexually liberal so she will post pictures of herself a lot, will have lots of guy friends, will have a flirty nature, and won’t find anything wrong with it. Her thought is, if sexually open guys can do it, why can’t I?

Or are you looking for someone who has a traditional outlook? Dedicates herself to her husband, cuts down on contact with guy friends, and will be receptive to a dupatta or hijab? In which case, if that’s the kind of girl you want, then it’s only logical that you too be modest. Watching porn with a stranger is not modest. So mistakes happen, ok, fine, but is that your pattern? You only know the answer to these things, not us, and you don’t have to answer this, but ask the question to yourself.

How open are you sexually, and if it’s your right as a man, then as a woman, what is her right? Why be surprised when she exhibits open sexual behavior? If this is unsettling to you, then should you expect more modesty out of yourself in the future?

I once went to this talk where the Imam said some guy came up to him and said “Imam, I really hope to meet a girl who is like Aisha (R)”. So he said to the guy “Well then you better be like Muhammad (SAW)”.

I don’t know what girls don’t understand about this–just because I have intimacy in the privacy of my own house with my significant other who I intended to marry doesn’t mean I want her to be walking around naked for entire world or her to act like that with everyone. Don’t understand this twisted logic that she was intimate with her boyfriend in private so cant expect her to be modest in public. It’s called being committed and in a relationship and no longer acting single. Like i just said in the previous post, the modesty issue had nothing to do with religious reasons–more to do with not standing out in public and trying to mimimize getting attention due to issues I mentioned in the posts above.

And no I’m not sexually open and dont go around doing this stuff with everyone–clearly if you had read my responses you could see this was a huge deal for me and I was thinking this was very serious intimacy. If this was part of my personality as you’re trying to make it sound obviously it would not have been a big deal.

[pak2015]

Re: Very complicated & weird proposal experience..need girls advice

@ShimmerV

I dont get it? why does this thread have 159 posts

The first time I read the OPs post I didn’t even feel like replying cuz it was so umm immature (sorry!) so then how in gods name did it generate 159 posts?!?! Did I miss some amazing twist in the 24th post?

I thought the girl who has sex issues with her divorced guy will win the competition. Life01 you surprise me -.-

I responded to individual comments and clarified the same stuff at least 20x so that artifically raised the post count. Enjoy the drama while it lasts I’ll be getting off gupshup once my vacation is over lol

[ShimmerV]

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You cant do that! The desi negativity of this place will grow on you and one day ull be like the rest of us.

You can love it or u can hate it but u can’t leave it. Buhahaha seriously u can’t, but u can, but u can’t, but u can or can you really? -.-

OK I’m just kidding, I haven’t slept all night ughh so pls dont mind me #post164](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=post164)

[pak2015]

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To lighten up the mood on this thread…this is how my wedding ceremony would have likely gone down…

Hip Hip Hurrah - Song - Mere Dad Ki Maruti - Dailymotion - Video Dailymotion

[NOTE: this post is done in jest, dont feel the need to defend the girl in the video by bringing my character into question, I realize even the girl in the video is morally better than me, just making that clear now so no more posts are wasted on debating that, just relax and enjoy the video haha]

[fairytopia]

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@pak2015

To lighten up the mood on this thread…this is how my wedding ceremony would have likely gone down…

Hip Hip Hurrah - Song - Mere Dad Ki Maruti - Dailymotion - Video Dailymotion

[NOTE: this post is done in jest, dont feel the need to defend the girl in the video by bringing my character into question, I realize even the girl in the video is morally better than me, just making that clear now so no more posts are wasted on debating that, just relax and enjoy the video haha]

well, what a lame song :bummer:

[akaprincess]

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@pak2015

To lighten up the mood on this thread…this is how my wedding ceremony would have likely gone down…

Hip Hip Hurrah - Song - Mere Dad Ki Maruti - Dailymotion - Video Dailymotion

[NOTE: this post is done in jest, dont feel the need to defend the girl in the video by bringing my character into question, I realize even the girl in the video is morally better than me, just making that clear now so no more posts are wasted on debating that, just relax and enjoy the video haha]

this girl does know how to move though :chupki:

[pak2015]

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@ameeraf

well, what a lame song

Oh stop being a buzzkill..how can you not appreciate the creativity and cheapness of a lyrical gem like: “mainu peekay tu sip sip karega hip hip hurrah, jab hilegi meri hip karega hip hip hurrah” and the shocked faces of the groom and wedding guests..tooo funny

[Miea]

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Ask youself one question: Can you see tis girl being the mother of your future children?

[pak2015]

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@Miea

Ask youself one question: Can you see tis girl being the mother of your future children?

Noope