Very complicated & weird proposal experience..need girls advice

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Re: Very complicated & weird proposal experience..need girls advice

@pak2015

Ouch, a lot of girls defending the girl. Am surprised by some of the replies saying I am controlling..guess I will need to fix that about myself if that’s how girls view my behavior.

Thanks for taking time to read my (long) original post, I’ll try to reply to some of the comments.

OP, don’t look at this relationship from a black and white lens. If you’re going to resign yourself to the thought that, “Gosh I am a thoroughly controlling person”…that’s like a black and white. Try to look at it objectively. For instance…Expecting the girl you plan on marrying to avoid socializing with a bevy of men" is not controlling…especially when she made the same request of you. Even the more liberal goray couples set such limits. Asking a girl who is addicted to FB to stop posting pics of herself…can be challenging. She’ll most likely cut back before quitting completely. Worrying about lack of dupatta when there was a greater display of lack in modesty to which u also consented…renders dupatta as a lesser issue…and puts ur own values under question too. So, rather than see yourself as totally wrong…look at it objectively…in some cases you may have been reasonable…in other cases not so much.