Re: Very complicated & weird proposal experience..need girls advice
You being a Ivy League doctor, I’m not sure why this is such a difficult concept for you. She was NOT your wife. She was not even your fiancé! You can call her whatever you want but clearly, she did not see you as her “boyfriend”. You may have been discussing marriage but even the baat pakki between the families never happened. She acted single b/c she was single! Moving forward, you need to keep in mind that in arranged marriages, there is to commitment until a formal baat pakki has taken place between the families. Until then, you are free and so is the girl.
Asking a woman to change certain things when it comes to interacting with male friends AFTER baat pakki and/or marriage = Reasonable.
Asking a woman when there is not formal commitment at all to change how she interacts with her friends, what she wears etc. = Controlling