yeh thats wot im worried about bcos i no the guy aswel i mean hes lovely generally & i dont have a problem with him my issue is that they just dont go together bcos of their arguments & the way he treats her wen hes angry...
but yes she seems madly in love with him & theres no way she has the courage to break it off now (bcos of families being involved etc) so if i do say something about leaving him she'll avoid me even more...so i was thinking of trying to help her in the way fk1437 has suggested, i mean if she is going to take the plunge then i should atleast try to give her some safety tips
thanks again.
seriously aishi, i m tellin you he is NOT going to change. i have a friend whose hubby is like this guy, very respectful, decent and all but with her, he verbally abusing her(all kinds of urdu abuses, even hearing them wud make you jittery) but she went on and married him. he started beating her brutally and when I say brutally I mean pulling hair, kicking everywhere, slapping, pushing, beating with shoes, throwing things. it was really painful for her. they have been married for 3 1/2 years now.. no kids. partially my friend is to be blamed cus she brought his parents topic and one thing led to another, he strted beating her whenever she would argue. now his temper has reached such a point that she DUSNT have to talk abt his family to make him angry... small things make him crazy and he starts sayin the most explicit urdu curses you can imagine... in a nutshell... SAVE YOUR FRIEND FROM THE MISERY. my friend deeply regrets marryin that asshole. you can save ur friend from the long term pain. trust me, she will forget all this love shove when she marries him and finds him to be abusive. love is blind, its true and you end up regretting all your life later.