Re: Venting/Dissing of spouse and inlaws
A few issues.
You listen to only one (typically exaggerated) side of story and give advice based on that; often leading to aggravation of the problem.
Most of these real or imaginary problems could be solved talking (TALKING) to the concerned people, not outsiders to the ‘problem’
Comparing notes is a BAD idea if they are notes full of complaints. I personally know a few women who have terrible husbands/in-laws but they present a very rosy picture of their household while interacting with ‘outsiders’ and a few who have great spouses and in-laws but love to complain out of habit. When they compare notes, things get worse.