Its a common practice in desi/pakistani culture that women vent (a lot of time dissing too) their spouse and his family (the MIL, SIL, FIL, il etc etc) and they usually (not always) don’t mind others joining in.
Like i have observed it in real life, and also here on Life1 forum.
We all know paksitani men are the worst when it comes to treating their women, but i am talking about how they handle this PR side in front of others.
Have you people ever observed the men dissing their wives in front of others? Online/offline?
Its a common practice in desi/pakistani culture that women vent (a lot of time dissing too) their spouse and his family (the MIL, SIL, FIL, il etc etc) and they usually (not always) don't mind others joining in.
Like i have observed it in real life, and also here on Life1 forum.
We all know paksitani men are the worst when it comes to treating their women, but i am talking about how they handle this PR side in front of others.
Have you people ever observed the men dissing their wives in front of others? Online/offline?
What are your observations/experience?
Also what would explain this.
Women vent. PERIOD! Got nothing to do with them being Pakistani!
No, disrespecting your wife or in laws means disrespecting yourself, so men don't do that.
Women vent. PERIOD! Got nothing to do with them being Pakistani!
This.
Men and women just react differently. Women need to vent and men, well I don't know what they do, go eat something? Kick someone? I don't know, they usually don't need another perspective to their case.
Unless its a serious issue, I think men/women should not talk/discuss negative stuff about their spouse.
Vent seems to be another word for backbiting .
for both men and women. as the famous desi saying(?) goes. if u will lift your kamiz it will bare your own belly. Show respect for each other for your own sanity's sake.
And venting is mostly backbiting specifically when it becomes a habit. Seeking advice is great but asking for it on a public domain is quite unwise.
Lol. Both genders have their tendencies. Men, in general, may not be in the habit of venting to their friends and family about their domestic troubles. But some men, I've seen and heard, are in the habit of giving gaaliyan to their wives' family or even to mothers and sisters of other men.
Its a common practice in desi/pakistani culture that women vent (a lot of time dissing too) their spouse and his family (the MIL, SIL, FIL, il etc etc) and they usually (not always) don't mind others joining in.
Like i have observed it in real life, and also here on Life1 forum.
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We all know paksitani men are the worst when it comes to treating their women,** but **i am **talking about how they handle this PR side in front of others.
Have you people ever observed the men dissing their wives in front of others? Online/offline?
This was just so that the feminazis don't derail the thread, since thats what their ultimate desireable outcome is, i mentioned it in the first post. :)
This was just so that the feminazis don't derail the thread, since thats what their ultimate desireable outcome is, i mentioned it in the first post. :)
I was wondering that, but I read that post few times and failed to see a sarcasm button pushed by you. Which usually you do. :D
Hence, I did not push the sarcasm button on too. Do you wonder why I added one particular member in the list? ;)
If you do not really mean to say any similar derogatory statement as a 'fact', then be more clear.
Women vent. PERIOD! Got nothing to do with them being Pakistani!
Its not venting it *****ing.
Men don't do it because we understand if we insult your mother or father we are doing it to you as well. Guppans on the other hand have a double standard in this regard.
Its hard to say it is backbiting...if someone asks the advice from other of his/her personal problem.
Yes, the ideal way is to talk to the person or people involved, but some people are so frustrated that they resort to whatever the source they could find to obtain a view or position on it.
Confidentiality is a must prerequisite.
Generalization has to be avoided.
Hateful comments towards in-laws or spouse should not be made.
And yes, there is no guarantee if online advise or from a friend... will work for the person and these so called advise can even further pollute the mind of the person or harm his/her relations.
As to why women do it more often, then maybe it is because most men have control over on the situation at home, or they have this mindset that they will be regarded as sissy boys if ask solution of domestic issues from someone else.
Common scenario is: Women talk to their friends more about their household problems than men to their buddies.
Yeah, it can be backbiting, and there is definitely a fine line. And yes, women backbite more than men, so by default they would 'vent' more than men too.
I agree with PCG - we do it to compare notes and problem solve. I find it really helpful. But I don't want to cross the line into backbiting :(
Women giving advice to women about men, whom have barely interacted with men. If the advice is of the same caliber as you guys give each other on life1, I weep for your households.
I would say mostly more women r complaining bcuz mostly women has more issues, they r living with in-laws so they r bearing them, no men tried living with in-laws family specially in form of day to night! under the eyes of others!
another point is that mostly men have more power so they do directly but women r seeking ways to do indirectly!
and last point if someone has a bad wife he is starting complaining also!!! I saw it as well
make husbands live with their wife's families in joint family system. make husbands cook, clean, take care of their MIL, FIL. let their FIL,MIl talk down to them, tell them what to wear, what to cook, what to eat, how to live their lives, and constantly tell them how unfit they are for their daughter and how their daughter could have gotten a way better husband. and also, limit how often the son in law can go visit their parents because visiting too often means neglecting their actual responsibility which is their susral/ wife's parents home .
then lets see who vents and complains.