Vacationing separately...when you are married

[psyah]

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@Niksik

Peace to you as well brother Psyah,

thanks for bringing so much logic into this thread Where is Hareem

On vacation

[Niksik]

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[njgal]

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@Niksik

So I cannot see myself sitting on Kayak and booking a trip to a spa resort for just me. I rather take the whole jing bang with me and have a babysitter watch them in the hotel room while hubby and I chill. Silly?

That’s not silly. I am sure there are a lot parents that feel the same way. Most resorts that I have been to offer free babysitting for the little ones - and packed with kiddie activities for the older kids throughout the day so you can have have a adult and a family vacation all in one.

[psyah]

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@Niksik

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No read my thread in life1 … she really has gone on vacation!

[Reha]

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I babysat my niece for a month last year. My sister had a work training she had to attend and she didnt trust babysitters or daycares…at all. They were living in Boston at the time so baby came to stay with me in Chicago. I LOVED it (even the dirty diapers) but I could tell she missed her like crazy.

I kept telling her to go out and have fun…take advantage of this time but they didnt do anything! Both husband and wife called multiple times a day just to listen to her voice while she was playing.

So I can understand how once you have a family…vacations also become about enjoying that time off WITH them versus WITHOUT them.

[Hassan007]

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Well thank goodness! I am relieved to see there are women who believe in personal time off. I am definitely very active person and love taking vacations with my buddies when i get married. In return, my wife to be will get her vacation time with her friends!.

[njgal]

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oh about solitude type of vacations - not for me. I don’t have the guts to travel alone city to city internationally. The two places I prefer solitude is the mall and the movies.

[S02]

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I'm all for hubby going for a weekend out with buddies and having a blast, and although I have never spent a weekend with my friends I think I wouldn't mind doing that once in a while.

However, I am seeing that a lot of separate vacations, alone, just because they need time away from their families, to relieve work stress, etc. Just alone. Maybe I cannot understand the benefits of that but somehow I cannot seem to enjoy myself if I'm not with my family.

What are your thoughts and experiences?

I don't think I would go for it. The closest has been going to Pakistan for various reasons, but both people can't go together (due to work, kids, etc). But that's not really "vacation."

[zahraghias]

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My husband went for camping with his friends for 1week no problem with me, but for myself I dont think so I like the concept of going alone on vacation.Nop not at all.

[khawateen]

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i think it depends on your social circle as well.. as we are to some extent influenced by our environment... where we live, its common for spouses to do their own thing now and then... its like that in our social circle too.... my husband goes to summer cottages with his friends for a weekend trip whilst we have girls only get togethers that can last 2 days atleast (some we take kids to, some we leave kids behind if they are old enough).. now its not a vacation vacation.. but still.... we get ample time away from each other if we want to meet and greet our friends... but now and then.. its great to go away for a short trip with friends that share our likings aswell.. i cant imagine going to a summer house with my husband and his friends and have to play xbox non stop, or soccer till my kneecaps fall off.. no way.

likewise, my husband would hate to be part of a spa and shop till you drop trip ending with us watching sobby chick flicks eating bonbons.. the manhood just may die in him if he were to do so :D

mil chastises the husband though .. like he is abandoning me and his child by going away for a weekend.... but when i have to do it.. its all the poor thing needs some time away from your idiocy .. its ok :D

which makes me think though... how come no one raises their eyebrows when women leave their men and go away for months to meet and greet their folks.. (i do that.. i go for 2 months every yr and husband only joins me for a 3 weeks). but if he were to go away for a month leaving me and the kid behind.. i SO wouldnt take it well.. nor would most ppl... so odd.

so it works out for us... im all for it!

[coolgirl]

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I recently just went for vacation with my sister and hubby stayed home to care for our daughter. Usually we like to take vacations together but this was something that I needed and hubby was very supportive in letting me go for a few days.