Vacationing separately...when you are married

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^ aaaah

aaah my wife does not feel bad at all :mad: in fact she teases me :frowning:

just yesterday she eat my fav biryani when she was out on shopping spree with her friends only to chiraOOO me :frowning:

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Yeh I'd say even a week or two weeks vacation would be fine. I often go see my parents alone for a month at a time and when I go there we go on our own family vacation to other places. Unless you have exactly the same interests and friends you'll need some time on your own to do your own thing. Like I went to Vegas for the first time for a week because my friend wanted to go for his birthday and of course it didn't make any sense to take my husband as he didn't know any of my friends. We did all the sight seeing, shows etc. I go on vacations with my husband too of course and he's taken time off to go see his friends as well for a week or so. I believe we will continue to do so because while I love my husband vacationing with him is a very different experience than vacationing with my friends and family ( ie parents and siblings) and I enjoy both types of experiences. I'm sure he feels the same way. I do miss him but we speak on the phone etc plus its usually a few weeks or months really, if it was like 6 months then maybe it might feel weird.

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:hehe:…

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that too..
like lets say for worldcup time, i would love to go for a week or two with some football crazy pals and just take that in full spirit. I know she would enjoy it too, but what about kids, they are too young to get anything from it, too expensive for all to go. btw there is a big difference in vacationing alone, vacationing as a couple and vacationing as a family..cost, responsibility, schedules etc. and especially tougher with younger kids.

so the option is to go solo or with pals, or to not go.

how many things that you want to do can you pass on because either it gets too expensive for everyone to go, or you know it will just not be the same.

I want to go to Machu picchu, something my bros and I have been thinking about for years. but with pidoos ranging from 1 year old to 5 year old, its a no can do with family. and while the wives would love to go, and we would love to have the along..they are not comfortable leaving the kids with someone and I can understand that but that keeps this thing in a hold pattern :)

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Neither my husband nor I take holidays without each other or the kids, apart from the occassional visit to PK but thats visiting family it's not a "holiday". We know someone who does take holidays alone and hubby doesn't understand why they do that.....we are joint at the hip.....LOL

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I understand, but its not that you never take vacations with pidoos and bhabhi. I am sure it will be a matter of concern if you always insist on going on a vacation by yourself and never with the family.

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oh I never take vacations without them, I think I only did one trip and that was the cenetennial celebration for my fraternity this year, and our annual reunions. she has taken a few trips to her parents, and one to vegas with cousins.

my separate vacations have usually been due to extending a couple days after work trips..work in brussels..take a couple days off, add the weekend and go see family in London, flying to milan for a week for work, fly through London and stop in on the way in and back type of things.

that macchu pichu thing thought, that me n the bros have to do soon before they shut vast parts if it off to tourists.

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If he always insisted on going alone, I woudl sure as heck think they had something to hide.

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I have a feeling Mr has arranged a weekend getaway for my birthday, but i don’t want to leave my babies. :teary1:

I don’t get “being alone” vacations…if you’re going out with the guys, fine. He’s gone on vacations with the guys, fine. I’ve vacationed with my girlfriends, fine…but throughout the whole trip i was thinking “oh Mr would love this…eldest daughter would love this” etc…

But alone… like on your own…(and i’m not talkign about visiting your family)…why?

Vacations with the whole family are the best. :naak:

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We (Husband and I) went on a 5 day vacation without our princess, we didn’t really enjoy it :bummer:
Both of us kept talking about how she would have enjoyed it… we decided never to do that again.

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yeah i can see that happening

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solitude can be a great place to visit :slight_smile:

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Mr has a study/library for that. :snooty:

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Thats our dilemma too.

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I guess I am the odd one out. I love to vacation with my hubby without the kids. Probably because we have crazy busy lives and it nice to get away for just the two of us.

I don't like to go completely alone but I like to travel with my siblings.

I took a trip with just me, my mom and my daughter. I guess I don't get to spend so much time with her and it's so nice to reconnect and have some fun memories with different family members.

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nj- i want to do that too, but begum does not trust anyone with kids.

and I agree with her, but have proposed that we have a day time nanny for the duration we are away and the kids can be at my parents or her parents place, so the nanny is under their supervision, but they dont have to chase after the kids all day.

we will be headed to UK in a bit and wanted to do a trip to Paris and venice, I am now trying to find some daytime babysitter for 4 days.

10 years ago it would be different, now with parents getting older i dont think they can handle the kids, they will say sure, but I know it will be too much, so our vacation plans are on hold. I wanted to take begum to Venice since 2005, but the question is how..

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So far, one of my sisters left her girls with our family for 10 days (but family includes nani, khalas and other kids the same age group). The couple went back home and did a side trip just the two of them while we had their girls at our place for 10 days. Obviously the parents missed the kids - but were okay knowing they were well cared for by family and maybe the difference is, they didn't ask us, we offered to look after the girls.

I've offered the other sister my babysitting services as well. Her husband and her are the worst procrastinators. They're planning a short trip where they're in driving distance in case they need to come back home (although I've had their kids overnight in the past). If all goes well on their minitrip, I'm supposed to babysit their three midgets when they go away on a week-long 10th anniversary trip next week. Oh and, if I asked, this sister would have her nanny stay to help me out.

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My question was mainly on making trips alone, without a spouse, friend or family member. A lot of people go away as a couple, leaving kids with grandparents, or with buddies etc, but all by yourself.

I see X2 talked about extending a business trip and adding a couple of days for sightseeing (if I remember correctly from his above posts), and some of you commented that you wouldn’t mind going on a vacation alone.

OK, so here is me. The other day I went on some community project thingie for a few hours that included some fun activities and food. Kids were having a blast with hubby so I had no concerns whatsoever. They probably didn’t even miss me :smiley: but I was having a hard time eating and having fun :naak:. As far as the “work” part of it was concerned, no problems concentrating and getting the job done, but as soon as it got into the non-work part, I was wishing my family was with me :bummer:. So I cannot see myself sitting on Kayak and booking a trip to a spa resort for just me. I rather take the whole jing bang with me and have a babysitter watch them in the hotel room while hubby and I chill. Silly? :hehe:

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Peace Niksik

If not everyone then most people are like this. However, the purpose of vacation can be for a multitude of things:

To have fun
To have break of our mundane routines to get a change
In turn to recharge your batteries
To cherish what you have left behind
To give those who you are meeting a fun time rather than having it yourself

If you bottom out the motive of the vacation of the one going on vacation ... you'll get the answer to your query.

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Peace to you as well brother Psyah,

thanks for bringing so much logic into this thread :mad: Where is Hareem :snooty: