Well i dont know why everything keeps going wrong in my relationship aagain and again.. i want this relationship to work , bcz regardless of our parents we love each other and he is a amazing person. right now hes too angry to realise bcz i know its hard to hear something about your family. i might be the same way if i was him.. but we make things work. in our own personal relationship we have no fights.. just things bought by others.
Things are going wrong because of you. If you want this relationship to work, try to use your brain instead of other peoples'. Is it your engagement or the parosi's? You want someone else to come and fix your issues for you? Are you a helpless child? Are you handicapped? Are you slow? No. Then, give a really good excuse for this behavior of sulking, crying, taking pills, not dealing with this properly and also creating drama between your fiance and you.
You want sympathy from us. You have it for some things but other things like this...nope. Your relationship is YOUR responsibility to manage and nurture, not anyone else's. Stop being a baby and take some responsibility for your actions.
i dont know exactly what they asked. but it was just asking repeatedly or something ( i was not there so i dont know) that aapne aapni shop mein computerised system kyun nahi rakha? kya waja hai? and i think he might be asking too many questions as to why. which made abu feel uncomfortable
Unneccessary drama over stuff you dont even know for sure...this is childish.
i really dnt know, my mom told me not to tell him. just to let go. but how could i? from everyones reply it seems like its not too big a deal and my dad is sensitive about the isue as he was once on peak and now on bottom.
i thikn they shud be more polite to my parents and not talk abt something in a questioning way. well right now i jsut hate my fil but i cant break my engagement bcz if i do i may never find a guy.. and i may never have the courage to make it out of this rooom,. i know ill kill myself ..
i cant take more pills bcz they r ruining me im losing my memory.
pleaase pray for me. my fiance told me that he needs some time apart from me. so i wont msg or call.. i need him to realise that my family has some importance too and they also need to meet my family and behave.. :s
I would want some time apart too. You're literally sulking about your sister getting more rishtay than you, that your mom doenst like your inlaws, your FIL asked your dad about a computer system, you want to hurt yourself because you might not get married, you're taking pills, etc etc etc. These are all issues your fiance has NOTHING to do with. Just you. What is the common denominator here? You. Who has the issue here? You. Who needs to get their mind out of wherever it seems to be stuck? You.
Crazyfool, life is short and also what we make of it. You have complete control over your happiness but you want to be miserable.
You want honest advice? See below.
For God sake.... grow up!! You seem like a real drama queen. and its not your fiance's ego thats huge, its YOURS!!! He is right, you make an issue out of everything, hence why he needs a breather. Your mum messes with your mind, and you mess with his.
1) you dont know exactly what his dad said to yours and you still throw a hissy fit. Your mum told you this, and even though you know your mum has it in for your inlaws, you never thought to confirm what actually happened between the dads. How daft is that? Speak to your dad about it, he will most likely give you the real picture, not the drama your mum presents.
2) If his FIL really thought you were beaneath them, they woud be against your proposal for thier son...and you would def. know about it first hand!!! So stop finding excuses to berate them at each point.
3) You say he has an ego problem, yet you want his parents to change according to your mothers desire, so you have the ego problem here...you cant change people according to your specifications...and if you try, it will blow up in your face. You really dont deserve them.
You are right, if you carry on like this, you will most likely end up a sad lonley figure, and you wont get much sympathy from anyone, because its was enitrely your fault.
