For God sake.... grow up!! You seem like a real drama queen. and its not your fiance's ego thats huge, its YOURS!!! He is right, you make an issue out of everything, hence why he needs a breather. Your mum messes with your mind, and you mess with his.
1) you dont know exactly what his dad said to yours and you still throw a hissy fit. Your mum told you this, and even though you know your mum has it in for your inlaws, you never thought to confirm what actually happened between the dads. How daft is that? Speak to your dad about it, he will most likely give you the real picture, not the drama your mum presents.
2) If his FIL really thought you were beaneath them, they woud be against your proposal for thier son...and you would def. know about it first hand!!! So stop finding excuses to berate them at each point.
3) You say he has an ego problem, yet you want his parents to change according to your mothers desire, so you have the ego problem here...you cant change people according to your specifications...and if you try, it will blow up in your face. You really dont deserve them.
You are right, if you carry on like this, you will most likely end up a sad lonley figure, and you wont get much sympathy from anyone, because its was enitrely your fault.
i know my fiance needs to breathe away from me, even i need to get out of where i am and relax. i wanna go on a vacation like really bad. well i cant speak to my dad about first, firstly because im shy abt discussing my in laws with them. its difficult discussing them with my mother even. i know my mom isnt very much on my in laws side but maybe it is because of their attitude as well like this computer thingy?
ive talked to alot of ppl and everyone told me that its probably a misunderstanding between the two parties but i think my in laws shud make an effort and meet us more often. when their daughter will get married they will realsie what my parents felt.
i dont think i would know if he thought i was beneath them, there is no social interaction remember? my mom already feels that they dont meet us because they think we r low not upto their level.. when i go to their house he meets me nicely sits with me for 10 minutes and then goes in his room. maybe he just accepted the proposal cause his son loved me.
i dont want to change them, its fine they are unsocial but maybe they can understand how sensitive this marriage thing is and make more contact or atleast talk on phone. dont you think so? i tihnk when their daughter will get married then they;ll realise once and for all.
and hello? how is it all my fault? my only fault is telling my fiance. i told ihm bcz i didnt know what to do. my mind was spinning and i was on a sleeping pill to relax but it didnt work. the amount of drama ive had in my life anyone would be like me.