hmmmm i dont think she has low self-esteem... i can totally see how she believed things would work out.
If a girl has devoted that much time to a guy... emails, chat, phone and then finally meeting up... u should really have known what u were getting urself into.
Girls dont operate the same as guys.. and it really has nothing to do with sel-esteem.
you lead her on, simple
redvelvet, how can it be psyschological? i dont agree. I think thats tiny bit of a harsh assumption. I know MANY people, both guys and girls who have been in similar situations... and really, it got nothing with being lop-sided in the head..
Sadzzz,
I never said that it IS psychological. I only said that it "could" be psychological. I was only suggesting a possibility...not a definite cause. You've read too far into what I said to accuse me of being harsh. The word psychological is so broad.......that it can apply to our moods and social interactions that take place on a daily basis. Our psyche/mental state plays a role in how we feel and relate to others.
Also, we don't know about this girl's background. Perhaps there were problems in her upbringing that led to fear of abandonment issues. Perhaps she was in a previous relationship that didn't work out......and she's latching on to the poster as a "rebound" to fill an emotional void. Or perhaps as you suggested........she developed strong feelings for him during her frequent interactions with the poster while he led her on.
I did say that her reaction seemed "unstable". I don't think this is a harsh word, Sadzzz. Many of us.....even the best of us....... have become unglued....or temporarily "unstable" when we are extremely angry or hurt or vulnerable.
Also.......I never said that being in psychological turmoil (even temporarily) had to do with being "lop-sided in the head". I never implied that at all. One can be quite NORMAL IN THE HEAD and experience psychological turmoil due to a tragedy, problems in life, or upbringing.