Re: Upset..need advice
this SIL of urs sounds horrible. the best thing to do is not say anything to ur husband but to ur SIL directly. i had a sitiation myself and i confronted her directly and it worked out and she has never said anything to me since then. they just think no one will confront them cuz of scare tactics but if u have the guts to stand up and say something firmly she wont take advantage of u again. tell her u are newly married and need to spend time alone and are not ready to take care of a kid. she had the kid its her problem. helping out once in a while for a day is fine but for weeks on end? no way. and where is she going anyways? id really like to know that? is she going on vaca? does anyone REALLY know where shes going on these long trips? id find that out first and see if u can use that to ur advantage. cuz ppl dont always say what they are really doing. husbands always take thier sisters sides. tell ur husbabd what hapens after u talk to her. and then tell him that if hes not gonna stand up for u then whats the pt of being married? tell him to get over it and stand up for you from now on or u never will stand up for him and hes not gonna like it when the time comes. good luck!
In my situaion its impossible to talk to her directly and then expect that she wont tell my hubby. I did try once and the next days she called hubby to tell him off.
This isnt easy to do in my case. I guess in my case its better to talk to her while hubby is there cuz then she cant create a drama in front of hubby as he wud have been there.