**I really am a very strong advocate of using-contraception-before rather than abort-it-afterwards. Why didn't the man 'take care of it' before he got the woman caught in the situation? If he is not a kids person then he should have put a tight rein on his desires and/or taken care of it.
Why waste a very legal innocent life? :( On the other hand, I do think he really seems like a person who would resent the woman and/or the child as he has clearly expressed that he doesn't want one. It really depends upon the woman now, I guess.
A friend of mine was caught in the same situation. Her in-laws have a strict two-kids rule and she already had two kids. Her husband forced her to have an abortion the third time she got pregnant. She met me a few months before she conceived another one. Her husband wanted to get rid of it as before but I really motivated her to stand up for herself this time and tell her husband to get a vasectomy done if he did not want another child. She now has a beautiful daughter and rest they say is history. **
A woman I know is pregnant. Her husband clearly does not want another child. He told her to "take care" of it.
I don't know the whole story but I think they have financial problems, maybe immigration issues and he feels like he's too old to have another child.
She is devastated. What if she decides to keep the child. Do you think it would mean bad things for their relationship? Would he resent her or the child after expressing clearly that he doesn't want one?
The majority and dominant Islamic opinion is what XXX posted but there are mixed views and some scholars do believe it is allowed (with conditions) to abhort within a certain timeframe. Another surprising minority view I wasn’t aware of:
Some Muslim scholars also argue in favor of abortion in early pregnancy if the newborn might be sick in some way that would make its care exceptionally difficult for the parents (eg. deformities, mental retardation, etc). Some scholars argue that abortion is allowed for important reasons in the first 40 days. Sheikh Nasr Farid Wasil extends this period to 120 days.
If your "Husband" (if you can class his as that) says that you should abort as he cannot "afford" tro have a 4th kid, then you tell him, I don't expect you to provide for him/her as Allah (swt) inshAllah will. ...Put your faith and trust in Allah (swt).
Does your friend want to keep the baby? If she doesn't want an abortion/adoption then she should stick to her guns and have the baby. It's her body and her womb that baby is growing in. In 9 months time she will be the one doing all the hard work. All he needs to do is turn up for work and not get fired!..
Tell your friend to keep her Iman strong and don't let her Husband bully her into a decision she may regret..!
Im a lil confused. If abortion is haram in all stages than what abt a miscarriage?
I have heard many desis use the term miscarriage/abortion interchangeably…
this is my understanding of it…when some women find out that the baby is not growing properly, they opt for a D&c, which is the same physical procedure as an abortion, rather than wait for it to pass naturally…
if someone has a better understanding of it please correctme thanks
As far as I know, having an abortion just because you don't feel like having the child or because now isn't the right time is not allowed, especially if 40 days have passed. However, if there is a medical situation where the child or mother's life is in danger, you are allowed to terminate the pregnancy. Of course, if it happens naturally, like most first trimester miscarriages happen, then that is a different situation that was beyond your control.
Technically abortion means termination of pregnancy whether it is spontaneous or induced. The word miscarriage is used to describe only the spontaneous type.
A woman I know is pregnant. Her husband clearly does not want another child. He told her to "take care" of it.
I don't know the whole story but I think they have financial problems, maybe immigration issues and he feels like he's too old to have another child.
She is devastated. What if she decides to keep the child. Do you think it would mean bad things for their relationship? Would he resent her or the child after expressing clearly that he doesn't want one?
If conception was because of a lie, it is unfortunate. I don't think he would be able to resent the child but a trust may have been lost forever.