Re: unwanted interference from mother in law
Right now I'm just getting depressed by my mother in law's every 15 min piece of advice. My baby has been teething thus has bad fever and all. He has become a lil weak. My mil keeps stressing that I should feed him less milk and more food. My NAND makes this sagu Dana something mixture with milk, she also makes suji and milk mixture too. My mil forces me to feed that to my baby. I'm sure these things might help him gain weight but is it healthy? Is it not extra unhealthy calories? I'm sure it has no protiens/ vitamins or any other healthy stuff.
My second concern is that my baby's sleep routine is going through a time change. He has been a very good sleeper mashallah. Now that when he sleeps at odd Pk timings, my mil starts stressing I shd wake him up and that I why is he sleeping so much. I get upset when she starts on that. Finally my baby is getting used to the place and started sleeping well again I can't take my mil's uneccesary advice.
Third concern, my sister in law's 2 kids ( a 3 yr old and a 1.5 yr old) are way too hyper for my calm baby. They won't let my baby play with his toys. They ll keep his toys in their mouths then throw them on the floor. I find my baby putting the same toys in his mouth. I can't monitor him 24/7 bcos everyone wants to hold and watch him play. When in the room they ll come get him from me. My baby just got flu and everyone advising me to give him baby Tylenol while I want to take him to the doc.
My baby uses pacifier, my mil is against it. I know I need to wean him from pacifier but my own way. My mil will take pacifier away from him for hrs resulting him getting very very fussy and frustrated.
My son was actually a very small baby so just imagine how much I was told about his health and me working and not being able to raise a healthy kid but I endured it. As long as the baby is on the same growth percentile and does not decline sharply, you already know he is doing ok so ignore if someone tells you he is weak. Usually what I did was I would listen to everyone, if I completely did not agree with the suggestion, I would tell them I asked the ped and this is what the ped suggested.
Tell your MIL politely that your son is on the same growth percentile so he is ok.
- Sooji is good but sagu dana as you said is only starch so not very good. Accept sooji and say no to sagu dana politely.
- Try infant tylenol first and if it does not help with the fever, tell them you gave the medicine and now need to take him to the ped.
- For the sleep timings, I know its hard. It would be good if your kid slept the same time as you did, otherwise you will be up at night with him and up during the day yourself.
- Even if you were in US and went to someone's house, the kids can still put toys in their mouth and then back in your baby's mouth. Kids dont know. My 3 year old had taken my daughter's pacifier in his mouth and then put it in her mouth before I could stop him. If you can watch and stop, good, if not, dont stress over it.
Someone wanted to give soft drink to my 1 year old in Pak. Cow's milk is comparatively better than soft drink :) I have given cows milk to my kids before 1 at some occassions for various reasons. M
You already know what to do and just wanted to see any positive in all of this. You are there for a short time so try ignoring things. Your son will be back to your own schedule and ways when you come back. Also you do not have to fast if your are bf your baby. You can keep the fasts later.