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I knew it. I don;t know how to serve tea. I will do whatever it takes to get out of serving tea.
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FF, next time we talk..I hope you are as quiet.
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Obviously they don’t talk to you at all. You can’t have looked that good.
I love the way you do a double take. Someone has to.
“But this was not just one person. Quite a few people actually”
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Fine! I just won;t call you any more, if you want me to stay mute 
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OK MQ. I am bored now, feel free to rationalise your inadequacies away. I'm off to do more with my life than be a teaching assistant.
Later.
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There were quite a few people. All aunties so far. Forgot the number. I will count them up for you. But what I was aiming at - I guess you missed it- was that my life is made up of hundreds of people, thus the ‘noone wants to talk to you’ just doesnt hold with me. My life is not made up of just the silent aunties. Now Ive spelled it out for you, I hope you understand it.
Yeah I guess little old me must be lacking in the looks department.
Im great though I must admit, esp with the title of this thread. So..apt.
Gamma – 
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No no…I just want to hear the stirring of the chammach in the tea cup..oh the sweet sounds of the chammach glancing agianst the ceramic teacup..
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MQ, I’m pretty silent myself when I go to other peoples’ homes. The reason why I’m silent is usually cause I’m not comfortable enough to ‘open up’ and talk. I would rather listen, and when I do talk, I’ll ask open-ended questions like Gamma has said. Maybe not the answer you are looking for, but it will give you little insight as to why people are silent. These women probably aren’t comfortable for whatever reason. Do they open up more when your mother is around?
Femme, call me again instead of PD … 
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Queen, thank you for the flower have a french mulla slave in return: 
. God Bless.
- Gamma
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Mehnaz-- Well thats what I did. I asked questions. gave them time and silence to answer. But it didnt work. Asked lots of open ended questions. I got "no" or "yes" or a mumble. Strange. Khair I guess some people are just silent. And I dont start talking right away either - unless I know the person well. But I do talk. I let the conversation flow. I just want to make sure people are well and are not bored etc. I didnt expect non stop talking - but I just find this complete silence strange. But again, Im guessing Im too used to talkative aunties.
gamma -- that was not a very philosophical remark. Plus I dont want a slave. :p
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:) when can we have a little talking session of our own. Just you and me?. God Bless.
- Gamma
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Mehnaz.
In all honesty the only time I do not want to talk to someone and stay quiet starring here and there or anywhere is when i have absolutely nothing in common with these people and have no desire to get to know them either and am present unwillingly.
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^^ FF,, how about when you are so awestruck that words just can't fall from your lips. aisa toh hai na?
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Er excuse me?
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I usually associate above situation with the 'NICE GUY' syndrome (in ur case it will be NICE GURL hehehe).
This is a v.common scenerio when people are over and you don't know them much / don't have many things in common. You look for things to talk too that are in common but you don't want to go too personal (cuz it can come back to you too)
Now my solution is not for everyone. You have two choices. Either talk about something contraversial OR ask an opinion about something religious (the "problem" is lil out of the norm but not specific to you). This is not for you to get informed but just to get the conv. going. You will be amazed how much info you will get out of them (even though they will not have any knowledge about the subject). :)
I myself can talk about nothign for hours so usually not in that situation :)
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PrinceMS -- lol yeah thats a good idea. But the only issue with anything controversial would be that I might offend them? Plus I dont bring up religious (or such ) debates unless I know them well. If they bring it up- thats a bit different. But I could give it a try it might work!
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Yes I remember…thats exactly how you were the first time we spoke 
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MQ.....infact i'm the auntie ...u described ....:)
i've lived almost a decade without any desi people (n i mean it ANY) around ....n when i came here ....i couldn't speak german .....plus the area we lived in , earlier was full of turks who weren't able to communicate in any language other than turkish,....so....i have had no social contact with any person in my daily life .....its just me n my kids
so when we go back to pakistan .....i play the aunties u described ,....!!simply because i'm not used to talking to ppl any more!
btw, don't take it as a complaint.....i'm all happy n in habbit of talking to myself!
may be these aunties have been in the same situation...???