Uninvited Rishta Aunties

[Hum_Hain_Lajawab]

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@Afridi786

Yeah but education is not important, its more of a plus, as long as shes not an idiot, its acceptable.

not always

[Hum_Hain_Lajawab]

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@desidudecool

lol..guys go through that too...my brother before he got married had problems wearing contacts which used to give him red eyes.. his in-laws thought he might be an alcoholic and took a long time before accepting him.

lol

[niyal]

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@Hum_Hain_Lajawab

not always

the education is important as long as it is used as a tool for some1 not as a weapon against some1

[Hum_Hain_Lajawab]

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@niyal

the education is important as long as it is used as a tool for some1 not as a weapon against some1

U misunderstood me. I was replying to the phrase "As long as she isn't an idiot, it is acceptable".:)

And yes I agree that education should be used as a tool. I would prefer someone who has a lot of education provided that that person has Taqwa and imaan. Otherwise, what good is education if you don't have Imaan and taqwa.

[andy936]

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lolzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz i m thinking that how you will be looking like at that time....... it sound's crazy .......they don't think that how the other poeple gonna think whatever i m doing .....it is not good

[andy936]

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i can't control laughing i m just imagining about your baybasi :D ............it's very hard situation for who have been though...

[niyal]

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@Hum_Hain_Lajawab

U misunderstood me. I was replying to the phrase “As long as she isn’t an idiot, it is acceptable”.

And yes I agree that education should be used as a tool. I would prefer someone who has a lot of education provided that that person has Taqwa and imaan. Otherwise, what good is education if you don’t have Imaan and taqwa.

true nothing in life is complete without imaan and tuqwa …

i think it is applicable to all fields

[desidudecool]

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yeah especially those who re not goodlooking enough to find good ristas thats what they have to rely on

[ilated]

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@desidudecool

yeah especially those who re not goodlooking enough to find good ristas thats what they have to rely on

u mean they rely on education .

no it can be other way round those who are qualified and preety as well get extra-ordinary rishtas … balancing all elements ..

[Hum_Hain_Lajawab]

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@desidudecool

yeah especially those who re not goodlooking enough to find good ristas thats what they have to rely on

They have to rely on what? imaan & taqwa? I didn't understand you.

[desidudecool]

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^no am just referring to a certain few who become bitter and arrogant because they think they are not goodlooking enough to compete with others...i;ve run into a few women like that who were very spiteful because they were not goodlooking and got jeolous of men who were.i dont care about looks that much..i;ve gone out with women who most people would think were not goodlooking but they were goodlooking to me.

[Sara516]

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@Anil Khan

I wouldn't. I would prefer someone a touch less educated than me.

Read carefully, she says when an educated person comes they look for educated rishta. You're automatically disqualified :D

[Hum_Hain_Lajawab]

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@Sara516

Read carefully, she says when an educated person comes they look for educated rishta. You're automatically disqualified :D

lol

[andy936]

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@Sara516

Read carefully, she says when an educated person comes they look for educated rishta. You're automatically disqualified :D

lolzzzzzz:D

[_pyari_sii_bachi]

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yah hate them!
i have stopped going to weddings because of those aunties

[Hum_Hain_Lajawab]

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BTW, I would not rely on those Aunties to bring Rishtas because there is a risk that they might hide something from you because the other party told her to. This is possible if the aunties just want their fee and nothing else. For this reason, I would not rely on them.

[Sara516]

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@Hum_Hain_Lajawab

BTW, I would not rely on those Aunties to bring Rishtas because there is a risk that they might hide something from you because the other party told her to. This is possible if the aunties just want their fee and nothing else. For this reason, I would not rely on them.

Very true, BUT I also don’t think there is any risk-free sure fire way to find someone, be it through parents, cousin-marriage, “love” marriage etc. Each has thier risks and drawbacks and upside. It’s entirely upto you how you go about it, and best thing is to just pray that the one you marry treats you well and is a gud spouse, whether you foudn em thru naseeb , at work/university, rishta aunty, real aunties/uncles

[Afridi786]

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Rishta Aunties r awesome what u guys talking about. They help a lot of people.:)

[Khumar]

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MM where are you living again?

while there were people coming to look at my cousin, my mum was telling about these 2 potential rishtas. one she said looked at EVERYTHING, not only my cousin, but her house as well, matlab khol phaal kay, taaqa jhaanki. like…excuse me…waht are you going to find by turning over the chair?

the other one basically wanted a kaam wali. she’s like “hamray ghar to bas moment kay notice par 70 log aa jaatay hain aur hum sab kuch ghar main pakatay hain” yea if you want that…go get a nokrani for maheenay kay 200 rupay.

you know that aunty might have known that your mum wasn’t in the house and came at that time on purpose

[Najim]

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@musicmaniac

Yesterday this aunty came to our house with her daughter telling me that she was my mum's friend. So i told her how she wasnt at home. She was like oh i didn't know. So me being a lady asked her to come in, and she did and sat down. Before that me and my friend were about to go out, anyway i introduced her to my friend. After a min or so, she came up to me and sat next to me and started to stare at me and then asked me to move my hair (which were half convering my ears) behind my ears, i was about to do it when she did it herself and started to look at me like i was a mantlepiece. After that she went back to her seat and asked me to come and sit next to her and while i walked towards her she looked at every single part of my body from top to the bottom. I was so embarrassed, it felt like i was standing naked, after which i told her about my plans of going out which she totally ignored and starting to ask me all sort of personal questions which even included whether i have a bf, i gave her a look and then she went like are u engaged and went on saying "actually the reason i'm here is for my son's rishta". At that point i got really irritated and told her that she should come later when my mum is here. She gave me her name and number and left.

That was one hell of a horrific experience.

Darnit y cant peepz just call before they come to other peepz place + that aunty had no right asking me those sort of q's.

Some of her statements my friend translated "can u move ur hair behind ur ears" translation= May i see whether ur wearing a hearing aid.

"Y dont u come and sit next to me" translation: Y dont u walk towards me, let me see whether ur crippled.

Do u think it was appropriate of her to barge in my house and ask me those sort of q's in the absence of my mum and without telling me the reason behind it?

Y is it that we only thr girls go through these silly rishta thingies meaning how these rishta aunties target us and try to find something wrong with us?

Last year when I was in Pakistan, we went out to buy a "bakra" for qurbani, though it wasn't my first time to go for bakra hunt but I went after about 15 years and had a funny experience with my cousins. So its was something like,

Oye, yeh bakra dekh bara sona ay, acha, aiday kan check kar yaar, kan theek eey nay, dandaan tay wee nazar maar lay, aho aho don'da ay. Hun ainu tore keh wekh, aidee chaal wee theek ay keh naee, yaar chalda ta theek ee ay, per lag'da ay ainu thakawat hoee ay, chal koee gall naee, hore wekh lainay aan ... baray bakray nay bakar mindee ich.

Your statement (in quoted) is not very different from my experience for finding a "bakra". Your aunty was looking for a "bakri". Ridiculous comparison but it sounded like one.