Yesterday this aunty came to our house with her daughter telling me that she was my mum’s friend. So i told her how she wasnt at home. She was like oh i didn’t know. So me being a lady asked her to come in, and she did and sat down. Before that me and my friend were about to go out, anyway i introduced her to my friend. After a min or so, she came up to me and sat next to me and started to stare at me and then asked me to move my hair (which were half convering my ears) behind my ears, i was about to do it when she did it herself and started to look at me like i was a mantlepiece. After that she went back to her seat and asked me to come and sit next to her and while i walked towards her she looked at every single part of my body from top to the bottom. I was so embarrassed, it felt like i was standing naked, after which i told her about my plans of going out which she totally ignored and starting to ask me all sort of personal questions which even included whether i have a bf, i gave her a look and then she went like are u engaged and went on saying “actually the reason i’m here is for my son’s rishta”. At that point i got really irritated and told her that she should come later when my mum is here. She gave me her name and number and left.
That was one hell of a horrific experience.
Darnit y cant peepz just call before they come to other peepz place + that aunty had no right asking me those sort of q’s.
Some of her statements my friend translated “can u move ur hair behind ur ears” translation= May i see whether ur wearing a hearing aid.
“Y dont u come and sit next to me” translation: Y dont u walk towards me, let me see whether ur crippled.
Do u think it was appropriate of her to barge in my house and ask me those sort of q’s in the absence of my mum and without telling me the reason behind it?
Y is it that we only thr girls go through these silly rishta thingies meaning how these rishta aunties target us and try to find something wrong with us?
I don't see anything wrong with it. People are usually happy when a potential rishta comes to their door. If the guy looks decent and has a steady job, I say accept it.
Your lucky your a girl, with a guy all these things go into consideration much more, and it also includes education level and the income. Only when it's a love thing do these things get overlooked.
anil Khan: Na that aint me. Well the aunty was being tricky, see she didnt even bring her son and neither did she tell me anything about him.
My new strategy is to go to guy's parents house with my parents offcourse and treat them the same way they treated me. Meaning totally checking them out and asking them personal q bluntly
My new strategy is to go to guy's parents house with my parents offcourse and treat them the same way they treated me. Meaning totally checking them out and asking them personal q bluntly
LoL, that normally doesn't happen? I think the guy is under much more scrutiny.
Afridi, education is an extremely important factor these days for a lot of girls. There are plenty of families out there who believe having a BA is not enough. You need a Masters, PhD or something else on top of it. Looks are also required on top.
My new strategy is to go to guy's parents house with my parents offcourse and treat them the same way they treated me. Meaning totally checking them out and asking them personal q bluntly
Totally agree with that. I think in potential marriage issues families need to be blunt. When the time is right, I plan on going straight to the girl's parents and telling them "Uncle, Aunty I really like _____, and I want to marry her. My profession is ____, I believe in an extended family, and and if ______ agrees to this lets pick a nikkah date. "
lol..guys go through that too...my brother before he got married had problems wearing contacts which used to give him red eyes.. his in-laws thought he might be an alcoholic and took a long time before accepting him.
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lol thas y the love marriages r growing, wen love is involved, the education level, the income, all that become unimportant.
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