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he was being sarcastic STA
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STA, ‘gasht’ means to go on a look out for something. I guess, GIDSA wanted to say that when we go and look out for people who have already slept with someone before marriage, we will find plenty. … Sorry GIDSA if I interpreted you wrong 
Its a personal choice and we should not judge anybody. Religion and the extent to which anyone follows the religion is their own choice. I hope and pray that Allah Swt shows the right path to everyone.
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Lol. I meant emotionally prepare yourself for a new relationship. People usually become scared after such an exprerience and don't trust anyone. One bad experience doesn't necessarily mean that every other in the world is bad. However, learn from your experience and be careful next time.
My post still applies , we being desi folks cannot think of unmarried men or women having sex and then announce it on public forums without any remorse , even if it is anonymous.
Somethings will never change for us no matter how open minded we become.
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My post still applies , we being desi folks cannot think of unmarried men or women having sex and then announce it on public forums without any remorse , even if it is anonymous. Somethings will never change for us no matter how open minded we become.
For that matter, we shouldn't even accept dating, pre-marital affairs etc. Pre-marital sex is just simply unacceptable. Our desi values are linked with our religion and we should respect that.
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aameen
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"I simply asked him why he did all this and he told me he couldn't stand disrespect.. and i had called him impotent since i thought he couldn't satisfy me physically. "
Hahahaha, wtf...
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You make perfect sense red ruby. But there is simply no way i can accept its over. I tried but it all comes flashing back.
jalpari, I am really, really sorry about the breakup and the way it happened.
Listen, breakups are not easy, ever. This is even more difficult because you don't understand why it happened. Please allow yourself to do whatever you need to do to feel better, but like Red Ruby has said, do not contact him or anyone else about this matter. If you have been crying all day, that's fine, if you can't sleep or eat, that's fine too.
All of this is very recent. Let your body do what it needs to, to let go of the pain. Accept that this is extremely difficult on you and that you won't be normal right now. It is ok to be sad. You may actually benefit from seeing a professional.
In a week or two, if you let yourself mourn this loss, you will start to feel better. You need to mourn it so that this part of you that can't believe it happened, finally believes it. Remove EVERYTHING that reminds you of him. Try not to listen to sad music because that stuff would just make you sadder. Take care of yourself. In your position, I know I would sleep a LOT so that I don't have to deal with it. And then one day, I'd just find the strength to cry A LOT. Then, enough strength to cry to a friend maybe. THen at some point, I may decide to write about it (by the way, your post here is a good step in helping you recognize the issue and hopefully getting over it. Writing about such events helps a LOT!)
Just don't contact him or anyone else regarding the breakup and let your body do what it wants, to mourn the loss (which you will be extremely grateful for in due time). Contact a friend instead when the urge to contact him arises.
Take good care of yourself!
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I should add that you shouldn't let yourself be sad all time and unable to sleep or eat for no longer than a month (maximum). Even a month is a long time. Let yourself do what you need to for first two weeks and then start pulling back. You WILL have to put in the effort to make yourself feel better, otherwise, you might end up clinically depressed or worse. A guy is not worth a mental illness, especially your mental illness.
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Some sensible advice. :k:
Also don’t forget to repent to Allah(SWT) and pray to him to provide you a loving caring husband.
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That's really sad Jalpari and I"m really sorry it happened.
I believe it's not just your heart that's broken but your ego too... running after a guy and being told away to get lost, would definitely leave you broken. Time is the best healer in such situations but you need to accept that he's gone and you have to be strong for yourself. The more you text him or call him, the more insulted you'd feel and the more difficult it would be recover. It's hard to accept someone you thought loved you didn't really love you.. they just used you.
Step one is to accept it's over and it never will be. You say you cannot, but you don't have an option. YOu have to. The second option is to go running after him again and being shooed away again... so ACCEPT IT.
Then mourn... cry, shout, yell, whatever...try to take it all out. talk about it to a good friend who can listen for hours... just let it out... and then try to recover... that's the hardest part. Keep yourself busy.. .with whatever, preferably with good friends, don't talk about the breakup... just keep yourself very very busy in whatever you enjoy... like someone else said.. resort to religion. You might not be religious, but you can still try if you want. Ask Allah for forgiveness.. ask him to give you strength, say your namaaz, recite the Quran.. read an english translation if you can't read arabic...
Will keep youi n my prayers... hope you get over it soon.
xoxox
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whaaattt
faint
Yep learn your lesson and make sure you do not sleep with every new guy you have relationship with. Good girls do not do such a thing , they stay away from scandals.
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he didn't use her.....she disresepcted him by saying he was impotent....it was only his right to dump her...
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She didn't call him impotent... she only told him that somebody else had told her he was impotent and she didn't believe that somebody
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i totally agree with you.
(advantages of having a gf rather than a wife, lolz)
he didn't use her.....she disresepcted him by saying he was impotent....it was only his right to dump her...
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whaaattt
faint
he didn't use her.....she disresepcted him by saying he was impotent....it was only his right to dump her...
Obviously you two missed this:
He referred to the physical relation we had and asked me if it was not enough or if i further wanted him to sleep with me. I simply asked him why he did all this and he told me he couldn't stand disrespect.. and i had called him impotent since i thought he couldn't satisfy me physically.
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She didn't call him impotent... she only told him that somebody else had told her he was impotent and she didn't believe that somebody
see the bolded part
Next morning i texted him saying how a little a kid told me he gets fed up of things quickly and i told the kid when he grows up, he will make gfs, get fed up and then dump them. (pun was of course intended). That day he called me. And was disrespectful to me more then anything. He told me he simply didnt like me anymore.. he had crush on me and it was gone. I shouldn't contact or follow him or he will 'hit back'. I told him he must do all that he could, the worst was done already. He referred to the physical relation we had and asked me if it was not enough or if i further wanted him to sleep with me. I simply asked him why he did all this and he told me he couldn't stand disrespect.. a*nd i had called him impotent since i thought he couldn't satisfy me physically*
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hmmm its a little confusing, but I thought initially she just told him that somebody else had called him impotent, and in this part, she says how he blamed her of calling him impotent, coz he couldn't satisfy him....
anyways.. well calling a guy impotent would definitely make him go away :) but i still don't think she called him that... anyways...
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why u think she didn’t say that?? when you can read the read part that i bolded in her own post??? 
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now this confusion can only be solved by jalpari.
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the real question is do we even want a clarification??
now this confusion can only be solved by jalpari.