Re: Unfortunate story.. ?
jalpari, I am really, really sorry about the breakup and the way it happened.
Listen, breakups are not easy, ever. This is even more difficult because you don’t understand why it happened. Please allow yourself to do whatever you need to do to feel better, but like Red Ruby has said, do not contact him or anyone else about this matter. If you have been crying all day, that’s fine, if you can’t sleep or eat, that’s fine too.
All of this is very recent. Let your body do what it needs to, to let go of the pain. Accept that this is extremely difficult on you and that you won’t be normal right now. It is ok to be sad. You may actually benefit from seeing a professional.
In a week or two, if you let yourself mourn this loss, you will start to feel better. You need to mourn it so that this part of you that can’t believe it happened, finally believes it. Remove EVERYTHING that reminds you of him. Try not to listen to sad music because that stuff would just make you sadder. Take care of yourself. In your position, I know I would sleep a LOT so that I don’t have to deal with it. And then one day, I’d just find the strength to cry A LOT. Then, enough strength to cry to a friend maybe. THen at some point, I may decide to write about it (by the way, your post here is a good step in helping you recognize the issue and hopefully getting over it. Writing about such events helps a LOT!)
Just don’t contact him or anyone else regarding the breakup and let your body do what it wants, to mourn the loss (which you will be extremely grateful for in due time). Contact a friend instead when the urge to contact him arises.
Take good care of yourself!