I have a sorry tale indeed.
Got nikkahd to a girl in Pakistan (I have been born and bred in uk) arranged setting, but we spoke for 1 hour beforehand.
Kept communication over video chat, messengers etc every day, chatted all the time, appeared to get along well.
The rukhsati happened a year later due to visas etc etc, we were happy.
Come over to live with me in the UK and she starts becoming more distant, I was literally unable to spend any time with her as she always seemed to be distracted elsewhere, with my brother, father and sisters if they were about.
I would invite her to go to cinema, dinner, trips abroad, but she would refuse, we planned a trip abroad, so she applied the visa and it was granted. I then came around to book the tickets (excited by this point) and I was told to go alone and she didn’t want to go with me and not make a big deal.
Few days later “aap mujhay achay nae lagtay” and a list of reasons why, listed below, your brother is much nicer than you, maybe I’m in love with him, this apparently is a joke. She was due to return back to Pak in several weeks, so told me to straighten up my act or she won’t return.
Also told me on a seperate occasion he’s much nicer to look at, even when asked a couple of months later why you said that “because it’s the truth”
Painful words for a husband to hear. The next few months consisted of a constant game of cat and mouse, me coming home daily to her just chatting away with my brother all evening and me being totally ignored, I then discovered on her phone bill that she was messaging him around 2,000 texts a month! Once I asked if we should go on that trip abroad - “I don’t want to go with you, bring your brother and friends and I will then come” I tried to repair the relationship from many different angles, but was met with “I don’t like you, I don’t see a future with you, whatever you try, it’s not going to work”
Where did this hatred come from? I came home from work and didnt go with her to the supermarket as I was tired, I didn’t go with her to her friends house one day, I bought you a rose and you left it in the car.
It was all innocent, just general chit chat I could bear, but ignoring me and chatting away to my brother I couldn’t bear.
More recently, I discovered messages on her phone to another male facebook friend and it’s all been kept hush hush and secret from me, the messages even state that they are hidden from me to the other party.
I don’t suspect anything dodgy going on, just another repeat episode of ignoring me and putting someone else a greater priority.
This all happened within six months.
What a disaster 
